Forgiveness Masterclass

Forgiveness Masterclass - Healing Soul Contracts and Moving into higher dimensional states

In this episode, we dive into the powerful practice of forgiveness and its crucial role in spiritual growth - how forgiveness can shift your vibration, heal past trauma, and close old karmic loops. I break down the exact forgiveness process I use in my work!

We cover: Why does the soul choose certain experiences for us to learn and grow? How soul contracts work and why forgiveness is important for spiritual ascension. How forgiveness actually frees us and heals us is a 5th-dimensional state. Embodiment of 5th-dimensional principles in our lives. My entire forgiveness process broke down for you.

This episode will guide you through the process of embracing forgiveness to elevate your vibration, expand your consciousness, and achieve spiritual success.

Please note: This track may include some explicit/triggering language.

Transcript

Hi everyone,

And welcome to today's episode of Light Leaders Ascension School.

I'm Athena Bailey,

Your host,

And today we're diving deep into the topic of forgiveness.

And look,

This isn't just going to be a fluffy piece about why you need to forgive and the benefits of forgiveness and all that,

Which yes,

Important and great,

However,

Today I'm actually going to be really teaching you about fifth dimensional forgiveness,

Spiritual ascension and forgiveness,

And why forgiveness is actually a core piece and a core part of your spiritual growth of being able to shift your vibration,

Yes,

To heal your past,

Heal your trauma and ultimately be able to move forward.

For me,

Forgiveness was a game changer,

And I really think it's something very important that we do consciously and consistently.

When we have issues with people come up that we do forgiveness work,

It doesn't always have to be over this big,

Massive,

Oh my God,

They betrayed me,

And I've got so much anger and I need to process and forgive,

But even just minor things,

Right?

Forgiveness processes are important,

And they don't require the other person,

Like I'm not saying go up to the other person,

We don't do it.

We do it energetically,

We do it with the highest self,

So I'm going to be sharing all of that with you today,

Guiding you through some processes,

Sharing with you the power of forgiveness and why it's absolutely critical for your vibration,

For your consciousness,

For your spiritual growth,

And for your success,

So let's get into it.

We are moving into,

Well,

We already are in a space where we're wanting to be in a fifth dimensional state,

Right?

That's the whole thing.

3D business,

5D life,

We want to be in that fifth dimensional state.

So many of us are struggling,

Being like,

Well,

I have scarcity or fear,

The third dimensional stuff,

Right?

So just on a really high level,

Third dimension,

3D,

What we experience here around us is polarity,

Right?

Good,

Bad,

Right,

Wrong,

Black and white,

It's polarity.

That's part of the third dimensional rules,

Third dimensional experiences,

And your soul chose to have that experience here as well,

Right?

Because really,

If you were fully,

Absolutely 100% 5D,

You wouldn't be here,

I wouldn't be here.

What most of us are doing is we've got kind of like one foot in there and one foot in here.

I have to be able to come into the 3D to be able to do my work,

Right?

That's why I'm here,

To serve to the best of my abilities,

And I'm not saying I'm perfect,

I'm not always in the 5D,

Right?

But I do my best to embody it in every way that I can,

And I'm always thinking,

Am I embodying the fifth dimension here,

Or am I embodying the third dimension in my business,

In my life,

Relationships?

I'm always thinking,

Is it fifth dimensional,

Or is it third dimensional?

So fifth dimension,

It doesn't have this polarity.

It doesn't have good,

Bad,

Right,

Wrong.

It doesn't have that.

It's all happening for the highest good,

Right?

It's the aligned higher choice.

And in a fifth dimensional state,

There's no fear,

Scarcity,

Lack,

It just doesn't exist.

And it's something that I've really experienced.

The deeper I go into divine trust is that I don't have much fear,

Right?

The deeper I go into divine trust,

The less fear I have,

Because there's this knowing,

I am so deeply supported,

I know everything's always working out for my highest good,

So that everything that happens is perfect,

And divine,

And there is a divine timing to it.

And because I know that,

I know that I can't fail,

I know that nothing bad can happen because it's all good,

And I know I'm safe,

Right?

My soul is safe,

So it removes so much fear.

So the deeper we go into divine trust,

The less fear we have.

So when we experience fear,

Scarcity,

Lack,

All those kind of things,

It's very third dimensional.

And really,

Like when we turn on the news and the media,

It's really trying to keep us in a third dimensional state,

Right?

Like you turn on the news and it's like,

Well,

This is going on,

And they're doing this,

And these people are bad,

And blah,

Blah,

Blah,

Blah,

Blah,

Blah,

Blah.

Anytime they're trying to pit a side against each other,

This side is wrong,

You need to pick a side,

That side is right,

There's always going to be third dimensional because it's them against us,

Right versus wrong.

That's always third dimensional thinking,

Right?

It's polarity.

So in the fifth dimensional state,

There's love,

There's acceptance,

There's joy,

There's abundance.

Those are fifth dimensional qualities.

When we have blaming,

Shaming,

Fear as states,

As primary states,

Or as states that we experience a lot,

That's third dimensional.

And for us to really move into the fifth dimensional state,

We have to release the blame,

Fear,

Shame,

And anger that we are holding onto.

Because anger is not a bad thing,

Right?

I don't really see emotions in general in us as bad things.

I think emotions are such an important thing,

And let's take for instance,

If I feel anger.

Let's say that anger comes up in me.

I'm not going to be like,

Oh no,

I'm feeling anger,

That's really bad,

Let me go watch something and try to ignore it.

I go,

Oh,

I'm feeling angry,

That's really interesting.

Is this mine?

Is it someone else's?

Okay,

It's mine.

Why am I angry?

I know that my emotions are serving my highest good.

I understand that anger comes up in me,

Usually when someone has crossed a boundary.

And anger lets me know,

Hey,

Red flag here,

You need to check this out,

Something isn't right here.

Anger's primary directive is to protect me.

Why wouldn't I love my anger?

Why wouldn't I want to listen to my anger,

Right?

So I go and I sit with my anger and say,

Anger,

What are you trying to show me?

And same with all our other emotions,

Right?

They're there to serve us,

To show us something is out of alignment.

We actually need to go sit and listen to it.

When it's been pent up for years and years,

Yeah,

It can be really hard because then you've got to go into it and it can take hours of just being with it,

So it's a lot.

But on a day-to-day basis,

Once you've done that initial clearing,

We want to be in tune with our emotions and give them space.

A lot of people really try to suppress the emotions,

Even people who have good lives,

Who on the surface look really good,

They're still going,

Ooh,

I have a bit of anger here,

A bit of resentment here,

A bit of shame here,

And they just repress it.

I don't need to think about that.

I don't need to think about that,

Rather than going and sitting with it and go,

Mm,

I had a tinge of shame before.

What's that about?

Let me go into it,

Right?

And that's how we progress because your emotions are always showing you what's not in alignment,

What needs to heal.

So they are serving your spiritual growth and to create that next level life for yourself.

So blaming,

Shaming are all third-dimensional traits.

Understanding,

Acceptance,

Forgiveness are fifth-dimensional traits,

Right?

They're the traits that actually allow you to move and embody the fifth dimension.

And ultimately,

That's what's happening with Mother Earth.

Mother Earth has said,

I'm ready to evolve.

I'm ready to raise my consciousness because she is an energetic being going through her own spiritual evolution.

So you came here and you're like,

No worries,

Gaia,

I got you.

I'm going to help you.

I'm going to help you evolve,

And I'm going to do that by going through my own evolution and holding more of my own fifth-dimensional state.

And then Gaia can have that shift with us,

Right?

And we're supporting her.

She's supporting us.

And we're having this spiritual shift.

And one of the most transformational,

Energetic shifts,

Life shifts you can have is to forgive,

Is to release,

Is to forgive,

Because forgiveness frees you,

Right?

When I say forgive,

I don't mean tell the person what they did was okay.

If someone harmed you,

You don't want them in your life,

Great.

Don't bring them into your life,

Right?

But you can still forgive them.

It's got nothing to do with them.

We don't even talk to them.

To forgive them,

You don't even need to have a conversation.

You don't need to acknowledge them.

You don't need them to forgive.

The forgiveness is for you.

The forgiveness frees you.

The forgiveness allows you to move through things.

The forgiveness is saying,

What you did was not okay,

And I'm not carrying it anymore.

I'm letting it go,

Because I'm not choosing to be defined by that anymore.

That's what forgiveness does.

And that's why it's so powerful,

Because it allows you to release it,

Right?

And part of the forgiveness journey,

Especially when I guide you through it today,

Is going to be to get angry.

Angry.

Anger is a human experience.

It is your right to be angry.

Someone crossed your boundary.

Someone said,

Did something that was not okay.

Of course you're going to get angry.

It's not about going,

Let me just be love and light and ignore that anger.

No,

You feel that anger.

You feel how it strengthens you,

How it gives you power,

How it amplifies your boundaries.

I had really terrible boundaries growing up.

I really struggled.

I really struggled to even verbalize and say,

You know,

Like,

I'll give you an example.

I remember being on a bus one day home from school,

And I was only young,

I think I was about 15.

And,

You know,

Some guy sitting next to me,

Some older guy,

A middle-aged man,

Put his hand on my thigh.

In the moment,

It wasn't like an instinctive reaction for me to be like,

Hey,

No,

Get your hands off of me,

Which would have been nice.

But it was shock.

I was like,

What is going on?

And I genuinely just went into that.

I don't know what to do,

Right?

I didn't know how to claim my space,

Take my boundaries,

Express myself,

Right?

And that's been a huge,

Massive journey for me.

My forgiveness path has been life-changing for me and also really,

Really hard.

And I want to share with you a little bit about that because I might inspire you because of how bad I was before.

So when I was,

I studied kinesiology,

And when I was studying kinesiology,

I had such severe trauma,

I could not be physically touched by a man without going into fight or flight.

And it was just like,

I couldn't control it.

It was just,

It would just happen,

Right?

Literally remember being paired up and would be testing me and I'd be like,

Like my body would go into a state of shock and it was uncontrollable.

So I had significant sexual abuse when I was a teenager.

I'm not going to get too much into that.

But what it did is it created a lot of fear,

Trauma,

Of course,

You know,

I was young and I experienced that a lot of fear,

Trauma,

Abuse that really physically left me in not a good state.

And it was an interesting journey because at first it was a lot of,

You know,

After that happened,

There was a lot of,

A lot of sadness,

A lot of needing to process it and just be like,

Sad and depressed.

And then they like it turned into anger.

And I began to get really angry and angry at everything that was happening to women around the world.

And I,

You know,

The anger,

It was a lifeline for me.

Because before I just felt like I had no power and I was just in this depressed state and I was,

I was a mess.

The anger gave me power.

The anger was my lifeline to be honest.

And it allowed me to find my voice to say,

No,

You don't get to do that to me.

Right.

And yeah,

Probably it went onto the far side a little bit too much because I was so careful.

I remember I was probably around 18 when I started like really reclaiming my anger,

Finding my anger and starting to be really angry about the things that had happened to me.

And I was on a train and it was kind of late in the evening and I was only the only one in the carriage.

And a man got on the train and like sat right next to me,

Like wedged in between me and the wall.

So his like thighs were touching mine and I just,

The anger came right up and I turned around and I started screaming at him and I said,

The whole carriage is empty.

You can sit anywhere else.

Don't touch me.

Don't sit next to me.

Oh,

Okay.

But that was the anger,

You know,

It needed to come up.

And for me at that time,

It's like no one protected me.

No one said,

Hey,

You can't do that to her.

But anger had me like anger took care of me.

Anger kept me safe.

Now in the long run,

That's probably not the healthiest thing,

Right?

But for that age and for what I needed,

Anger became my strength,

My salvation,

And my friend,

Something that I could really trust and lean on and I knew had me.

Now it wasn't long after that,

That I really went on my healing journey and began to work with healers and go into all of my trauma and start healing and bringing it up.

But what was still left over was this fear,

Like fear of men,

Honestly.

That's what there was.

I was genuinely scared of men.

I was scared of being alone in a room with men.

I couldn't be touched by men.

And it wasn't something conscious.

It was subconscious,

Like it was happening there and I didn't know how to deal with it,

How to control it.

And I almost feel like I wasn't fully like 100% aware of it either,

But it was there and it was very much dictating my life,

The kind of experiences I was having.

It was affecting my life really,

Really significantly actually,

Looking back,

But I don't think I was in a place to admit that.

And I remember it kind of led up,

Peaked in one of the courses that I did,

Where the teacher was watching me go through my stuff,

Have my fear,

Panic attack,

Trauma,

And he came and he said to me,

And he said,

Fina,

The man who did that to you is not responsible for what you are experiencing right now.

The trauma,

The panic,

The fear,

That's your responsible for that.

That's your choice to experience this.

I did not take that well.

And you know,

I could say it probably wasn't very trauma informed at the time.

I did not take it well.

I was like,

How dare you?

How dare you?

And I was like,

Why would I want to do this to myself?

Why would I choose to feel this way?

But you know,

I didn't say anything.

I went away.

I sat with it.

And after a couple of days,

It landed and I was like,

I am responsible for my state.

I am responsible for how I feel.

I am responsible for my life.

If I am having panic attacks now,

That's mine.

That's not because of anyone else.

They might have contributed to the cause,

But that's in the past.

I am choosing to have this experience today.

And it was really hard to come to that place.

And it took a lot of time.

But what happened is I took responsibility.

I took full responsibility and was like,

I am in power of choosing how I feel day to day.

That's mine.

That doesn't belong to anyone else.

That man doesn't have the power to dictate how I feel in my life.

That's my choice.

I'm taking my power back.

And in that moment,

It was so incredibly liberating.

I was like,

I want to heal.

I want to take back control of my life because it's mine.

And I want to feel certain things and experience certain things.

And for me,

It was incredibly liberating.

And a big part of the healing and what followed next,

Yes,

There was like all the belief work and trauma healing and all of that,

But the other big part of it was the forgiveness.

And when I was doing that forgiveness work,

I wasn't saying what you did was okay.

I was saying,

I'm not going to let you affect my life anymore.

My relationships,

What I can and can't do.

I'm taking my life back.

And I'm fully disconnecting from you.

I'm claiming and calling back all of my power and I'm letting this go.

That's what forgiveness did to me.

I can proudly,

Happily sit here today and say,

I'm really not affected by that anymore.

Doesn't show up in my life.

Doesn't show up in my experiences.

A very healthy relationship with the masculine today,

Which my husband helped as well.

I think I had some remnants when I met him and then being around healthy masculine,

It allowed me to heal the rest of it.

So the biggest part of it was the forgiveness part.

And that's why I'm so excited to share this work with you today.

Because I know if you've been in a situation where you have been abused,

Where you have had your power taken away,

Where someone has betrayed you and it is still affecting you today.

If you know that you don't have the fullness or the spectrum or the experience of the relationships you want to,

Because there's a part of you that is traumatized,

A part of you that is fearful,

A part of you that is remembering of those experiences.

Forgiveness is going to help you significantly.

Forgiveness is really truly going to help you with this in a massive way.

So I want to talk about forgiveness and how we actually begin to forgive.

One of the first things we need to do with forgiveness and potentially one of the harder things to do is no longer see the people that hurt us as perpetrators of some abuse or harm to us,

But as soul lessons.

When we begin to actually step back and go objectively,

Why did my soul choose to have this lesson?

Why did my soul choose to have this experience?

And we can actually go,

Wow,

I learned,

I learned how to have boundaries.

I learned how to forgive.

I learned how to verbalize and find my strength.

When we begin to look at it from that way and see what a gift it was,

And we look at the higher reason and we're able to discern that and not be just like,

They hurt me,

They did this.

Go,

My soul chose that experience.

That's the divine truth.

Your soul chose that experience.

Your soul chose that experience.

Consciously,

You didn't.

You weren't like,

Yay,

Abuse me.

Woo.

No.

Well,

Maybe.

I don't know.

I don't know what you're into.

But your soul was like,

We're having that experience because you need to learn something from it.

So when you think about that experience in your life,

I want you to ask yourself,

What did I learn from it?

And if it's quite recent,

That's okay.

Maybe you don't know yet,

But you get to have a divine trust that your soul chose it.

And you get to say,

Spirit guides,

Angels,

Show me.

What was the soul lesson?

Why did I choose this experience?

Work with a healer,

A psychic,

Say,

Why did my soul choose to have this experience?

Right?

I'm going to give you an example because sometimes we can look at our perpetrators and go and like paint them in this bad light.

And I had this beautiful client last week and we were working on a past life,

You know,

One of the blocks for her,

Like it was a block for channeling.

And there was a fear about her stepping into her psychic abilities,

Going to the next level with it.

We did some past life work and we tuned into one of her past lives.

And we saw that in this lifetime she was kidnapped.

She was taken and her gifts were used against her by the people that had kidnapped her.

And she had to harm others and people that she cared about through her gifts.

Now obviously that left some trauma,

That left some fear.

But what really surprised me is when I looked at that lifetime and I looked at it was so interesting because she got the exact same thing.

When I looked at the perpetrator,

I didn't see this terrible evil person doing it.

I saw this really beautiful light being and like I'm getting goosebumps even thinking about it.

And when I was asking her spirit,

Because I always ask what was the soul lesson,

Right?

Because that's why we go back,

Right?

Something's not healed.

There's a soul lesson you haven't learned.

From that lifetime it was to find her power,

To find how powerful she actually is spiritually.

And what we were shown is that this perpetrator in that lifetime was actually a really advanced light being that loved her so much.

And she had lived multiple lifetimes and she just wasn't going all in her spiritual work.

And she was meant to,

But literally she would go,

She wouldn't experience the fullness of a power.

Like she kept resistance,

Pushing it away.

And her soul decided that the only way that she was going to experience her full power is if someone forced her,

Right?

She had to experience a full capacity of a psychic and spiritual gifts.

So this light being,

Advanced light being who loved her said,

You know what?

I'm going to do this for you.

I love you so much that I'm going to take on the karmic repercussions of doing this for you so that you can experience the full power of your psychic abilities and know them for your future lifetime.

So then you can incarnate and be this beautiful spiritual guide and spiritual teacher,

Which is here to be in this lifetime.

And it was from a space of love.

And it was so beautiful because we saw this is not a perpetrator.

This is a soul that loved you so much and was willing to be in that role so that you could have that soul lesson and soul experience.

So when we look at that,

We stopped looking for our human 3D,

They did this,

They hurt me.

And we go,

Well,

What was the soul lesson?

What was our soul contract?

What was it that I needed to learn,

Uncover,

Go through in this?

What is left behind?

Gratitude.

Gratitude.

I'm so grateful.

I'm so grateful for that person that allowed me to find my boundaries,

That person who showed me how to forgive,

That person that showed me how to heal,

That person that allowed me to find my voice and my truth and speak because it led me to where I am today.

And I'm so grateful.

And what happens to the anger and the resentment?

It can't exist when you're just grateful.

So that is the first number one step in forgiveness is understanding why.

When I got really serious about my forgiveness,

I'm going to take you through the process that I actually did and it was pretty intense.

So what I did was I had this big list and I just went,

I'm going to forgive every person I need to forgive.

And I literally wrote like,

Oh,

I need to forgive this person,

I need to forgive my dad,

I need to forgive my mom,

Like any person that I felt had done something to wrong me that I was still carrying in any way,

Wrote down their names.

It's a long list.

I think I had like 30 people on there,

Right?

Like childhood friends,

Boyfriends,

Just,

It was a long list.

And I was like,

Right,

Okay,

We've got,

I've got my work cut out for me.

So then I sat and I'll take you through the process.

This is my forgiveness process,

Right?

It's full radical responsibility,

Right?

Like we don't blame,

We don't say,

You did this to me,

You did this to me.

I chose this experience.

So let's figure out why I chose it.

Why did my soul want me to choose it?

Let's integrate it so then we can leave this in the past.

So what I would do is I would go into a meditation.

I would just see myself in a different state.

I would call upon my spiritual team,

My guides,

Angels,

Ancestors,

And I would call forward their higher self.

So let's say I was forgiving a woman named Lily,

Right?

And I'd say,

I call upon the higher self of Lily to be here with me right now,

Right?

And I'd feel her come in in meditation.

And what I would do,

The first thing that I would do is I'd say,

Thank you for coming in today.

And then I'd begin to share,

Right?

So the higher self is a higher aspect.

So it's not the person as you know them,

But the higher aspect of them.

And I would begin to share,

I would go,

Do I have any emotions left in my body and my being towards this person?

Maybe there's anger,

Sadness,

Shame,

Guilt,

Whatever.

And I would go and I would just talk.

Might be two minutes,

It might be 20 minutes,

And I would just say,

I still feel anger because of this what happened.

And you know,

It actually was unacceptable and it was really hard for me and da-da-da-da-da.

Like just full release,

Right?

We actually have to let out everything.

We can't just forgive.

I'm not going to acknowledge my feelings.

No,

You have to do the full purge.

You can write if you want to write them a letter.

I did that as well.

You can write them a letter.

You can talk to them.

Whatever's going to work best.

If you write a letter,

Burn it afterwards,

Right?

But I just talked.

I talk,

Talk,

Talk.

And I did write a letter as well at some point for someone,

But I can't remember much about it.

But I do know that's one way you can do it.

So I talked to her literally until I was like,

There's nothing left.

I've expressed everything I need to.

My throat chakra is not contracted,

It's all open.

I'm in full expression of my emotions and I'm empty.

Like I've emptied myself out and I feel hurt,

Right?

Because I'm connecting to the higher self.

They're there.

They're listening to me.

They're holding space.

And then I see,

You know,

Maybe they want to share something with me.

If you're not really psychic or channeling,

You probably won't get anything.

That's okay.

If you want to ask them,

Do you have anything to share with me?

You can.

Then what I do is I ask them,

What's the soul contract between us?

What was the soul lesson that I needed to learn from this experience?

Because there's a contract before you incarnated,

You were with that person's higher self in the higher realms and saying,

Hey,

I want to learn this lesson,

But I need you to come in and do this to me.

So I'll learn that lesson.

Can you do that?

Yeah.

Great deal.

Let's do that.

The contract.

And so that's when you sit,

Meditate,

Receive,

And you might get,

Oh,

It was so that you could find your power.

So you could learn to forgive it so that you could,

You know,

Whatever.

Because the reality is if you're watching this,

I know,

I know you've probably had a ton of pain and trauma because you're a light worker,

You know,

And that's kind of the deal.

We're here to heal.

We're here to shift.

And we need to go through our shit to come out the other end and be like,

Right,

We're empowered.

We figured some shit out.

Let's help everyone else.

That's kind of part of the deal,

Right?

So you're having this conversation with them.

You're asking about the soul lesson.

And when you get the soul lesson,

I really want you to reflect on and go,

Wow,

You were teaching me this.

What is that going to do for my life?

So for example,

If the,

If the lesson was like,

It's going to teach you how to forgive,

For example,

Well,

How is that going to impact the rest of your life?

What is that going to do for you?

What is that going to do for your soul?

And you just sit with it for a moment.

And as you're reflecting on it,

What's going to come up is you're going to feel that gratitude spark.

And as soon as you feel that gratitude,

You go into it and go,

Thank you.

Wow.

Thank you.

Thank you.

I'm grateful for this experience.

And I want you to feel the gratitude come up.

Thank you for this soul lesson,

Feel the gratitude,

Feel the love that your two spiritual beings having this contracted experience,

Gratitude and love.

And then when you're ready,

You're going to say,

I forgive you.

I forgive you.

It's even better if you say it out loud,

I forgive you three times.

And you can even say,

In forgiving you,

I free myself,

Right after you've said it three,

If you need to say it more,

Go for it.

If you need to do it over and over again,

Go for it until you feel like,

Yeah.

Then what you're going to do is you want to close contracts with that person.

You want to say,

Okay,

I now show,

Choose to close any open contracts or agreements between us.

Now visualize them closing,

Clearing.

You can call in St.

Germain with a violet flame.

I call upon St.

Germain with a violet flame to clear the energy between us,

To close any cords.

I call back my energy from them.

I send back any energy,

Separate yourself,

Close the contracts fully.

And then you say,

Thank you.

I love you.

I'm so grateful for you.

And thank you for this all lesson and send back the highest self.

And that's it.

That's the forgiveness process.

That's it.

All right.

And so let's say you have like a list of 20 people like I did.

You're going to go down there,

Go through each person.

And guess what?

Some people,

It'll be a five minute process and you'll be like,

Oh,

I've done that.

I feel great.

And some people you might spend 20 minutes and then the next day you'll wake up and you're like,

Oh,

I have to do it again this more.

That's okay.

It's not often a one and done process.

If it's a big trauma,

You'll probably have to do it a few times.

That's normal.

You really want to be patient with yourself.

But guess what?

When you get to that bottom of the list,

You're going to feel like a whole new person.

You're going to be like,

I feel so much lighter.

Like all the anger,

Resentment,

All those feelings I had towards that person,

Gone.

You're actually going to feel like a transformed person.

When I did that entire process,

It allowed me to shift my vibrations so rapidly,

So quickly and move into my soul work because all that dead weight was just gone.

And I integrated all of those soul lessons.

And because I didn't have all this anger and fear sitting inside of me,

I was able to find my natural healthy boundaries.

Because when we're full of anger,

Guilt and shame and other things,

We cannot,

When the anger comes up,

We don't know if it's from past event,

If it's coming up now.

So now when anger comes up,

I'm like,

Oh great,

Anger,

What are you trying to tell me?

But when you're holding all of that anger,

It's very hard because you go into it and there's one thing and another and another.

Actually have to clear it and give it space and allow it to move through you.

Now this forgiveness process as well,

I don't recommend just doing it for people in the past.

Guess what?

If you're in a long-term relationship,

A marriage,

Forgiveness is part of being in a marriage,

And it's not always forgiveness for something huge,

Like they betrayed you or cheated on you.

Sometimes it's just for small things,

But this process,

I've done it with my husband too.

When we've had a big fight and there was something that happened and I was like,

I actually feel like anger,

Even though he'd apologize,

I'd go and I'd do this process.

I wouldn't close the contract,

So between us,

But I'd ask,

What's the soul lesson?

What did I need to learn from this?

Gratitude,

Thank you.

And then going,

I release this,

I'm letting go of this.

And honestly,

I spoke about it in our divine love episode,

Relationship episode.

That first year where we were working through so much and we were so wounded and had our own shit,

I remember the defining moment where I actually sat down and I said,

Okay,

There's been a lot of stuff,

I felt a lot of anger and I actually read it out and I said,

I forgive you for,

And I said what I forgive him.

So rather than connecting to his higher self,

He actually held space for me.

And I said,

This is how I feel.

And it wasn't like,

I didn't expect anything from him.

I literally was just like,

You're going to hold space for me and then I'm going to forgive each thing and then I'm going to say gratitude to you.

And we did that and it was like that old chapter of our relationship closed and the new one open and it was like completely refreshing the energy.

That's what it felt like.

Like it was a new blank slate.

So this is not just something that you do with people you don't speak to anymore.

This is people,

Even in your life,

If you have long-term relationships,

Maybe you want to just go,

Hmm,

Is there something sitting here that I need to release and let go of to make this relationship better?

Right?

It's an ongoing process.

Oftentimes when we do forgiveness work,

Especially when it's towards someone you had like a long relationship with and there was a big emotional connection,

They might kind of feel you in their field.

It's not uncommon for them to reach out or send you a message,

You know,

Even saying I'm sorry,

Because you are working with their higher self and closing those contracts.

Ultimately when we,

When we forgive,

What we're doing is we're saying,

I didn't choose for this to happen to me,

But I'm responsible for the state I am in today.

That's my responsibility.

And my experience allow me to find my sacred no,

That sacred declaration of I couldn't say no before.

Like I've really genuinely,

I just,

I didn't know how to,

People would use me,

People would take advantage and all of those things.

And that experience allow me to find my sacred no,

So I could say no.

And you know,

The anger came through and I was like,

No,

No,

No,

A lot,

But then it balanced and I have really strong boundaries now,

Really healthy boundaries that I wouldn't have had without that experience.

So we want to find that gratitude and it can take time.

Like I said,

If you've just gone through something,

You might not know it straight away,

Can take time,

But trust,

Know that your soul chose to have that experience.

Forgiveness is one of the most transformational that like,

It's not hard,

Well,

It can be emotionally hard work,

But it's not like you have to go see a healer and sit for hours and hours and hours,

Like,

Or do a all night plant medicine thing,

Which is great.

And you can do that,

You know,

Definitely.

But even something as simple as this,

Where it's just like,

You do this process with everybody that you feel has wronged you,

And it's going to transform your life.

Honestly,

You're going to feel so lighter,

So much clearer,

So much,

So much freedom.

And guess what?

You're going to have a bigger capacity.

When I'm working with people in Channeling Spirit Academy,

And they're at the place where they're channeling,

They're trans channeling.

And they're like,

Athena,

How do you trans channel for an hour and a half?

I can't do that.

I can only do it for 10 minutes.

It's because we need,

Then,

Their body to be able to hold that high vibrational light for longer.

And guess what?

The first thing that we do is we clear out the old emotions.

Because when you have all these old emotions that you're holding onto in your body,

It lowers your vibration really drastically.

So for you to become more embodied in your soul purpose,

Better at channeling,

Activate your psychic gifts,

You have to release the emotions that are being held onto.

The emotions are not wrong.

But if you do not process them,

Then they lower your vibration.

Anger is not inherently bad,

But if you hold it in your body,

It becomes low vibrational to you.

You're supposed to feel it,

Experience it,

Release it,

Move through it,

Raise your vibration.

That's a natural state.

But if you hold onto it,

It's going to affect everything you do.

So if you are serious about your spiritual journey,

Your soul work,

And you haven't done big forgiveness work,

Do it.

And you'll probably keep coming back to it.

Maybe once a year you can go,

Do I feel there's something that I need to forgive?

Something minor maybe.

But it's going to allow an emotion to be processed,

To come up,

To shift,

To heal,

And to make you hold a much higher vibration.

So forgiveness work is incredibly powerful.

Have fun.

Enjoy it.

Good luck.

Thank you for listening to this episode today.

Wishing you the best of luck with your forgiveness work.

Blessings.

Thank you.

Reviews

Thanks Athina

Phenomenonal, phenomenonal, phenomenonal talk/ explanation!
So needed at this time of my life! Thank you!! 🙏🏼💞✨