Own Your Truth

I share my thoughts about owning your truth and how that helps us navigate in the world. We all have our own truth, and what it took to get where we are today matters. I have found myself chasing each new expectation that is put in front of us from society and realized how our truth has fallen in the background. I believe it is important to honor my truth and know what it means to me without other people understanding or validating it for me. I am learning more about owning my truth, holding it close to my heart, and knowing that my truth can never be taken from me.

Transcript

Hey everyone.

Today I wanted to talk about the subject,

Own Your Truth.

And the reason that I wanted to speak about this today is because I've been hearing those words recently,

Those words have come to me recently,

Own Your Truth.

And when I think about that,

I realize that I think that I've kind of downplayed my truth,

I guess you could say,

Or acted like it doesn't really matter because I think other people maybe acted like it didn't really matter,

Or society doesn't really put an emphasis on our truth or how our truth matters.

I think that there's always this new pressure from society of,

Oh,

This is what we need to do and this is what we need to achieve.

And I feel like it's just this wheel of expectations that are set upon us from society and that I feel like we can find ourselves,

You know,

Chasing each expectation and going from one expectation to the next and we don't really take the time to stop where we are,

Look behind us and be like,

Wow,

I have really come a long way to get to where I am today.

This has been a very long journey and what I have went through matters and it matters to me.

And I think that I would like to begin to own my truth more and say,

No,

That does matter.

And I don't have to pour out my heart and soul of my truth to any person just so I hope that they understand.

And I don't need to do that.

I just need to know that I know what I went through.

I know the feelings that I felt.

I know the experiences I have had.

I know the emotions that I have went through.

I know what I have had to bear and carry.

And I know that I don't have to explain that to anybody,

Not to mention even if I did try to explain my truth to someone,

Another person is not going to be able to fully understand what that was because they didn't live my life.

And I think that's something that would be helpful for me to know is because I feel like I've tried to explain things in the past about my feelings or my emotions and I think oftentimes that led me to feeling misunderstood and I kind of created this situation where I was let down time and time again,

You know,

From someone misunderstanding me and it's not anyone's responsibility to understand me,

Nor how could I expect that from someone else who never lived my experience.

So really I was setting myself up for failure with expecting other people to understand me or,

You know,

What certain things mean to me.

So I feel like the more we are in touch with our own truth and we truly know how much that matters to us,

I feel like that we can hold that close to our hearts and walk through this life and no matter what the opposition is or anyone's criticisms or anyone's rejections,

We know that we have our truth and that matters and that means something.

And knowing my truth allows me to make better decisions for myself in the future because I know that certain decisions that I've made have,

You know,

Brought on,

Say,

Negative experiences or a great amount of pain and now that I've went through that,

I can understand and be more informed about what happened so then in the future maybe I can make different decisions or,

You know,

Take the time to know that I am worthy no matter what happens in life and I guess I'm saying that from my own personal experience because I think I looked to the people around me to define my self-worth and to let me know if I'm worthy or not and,

You know,

Always trying to be the best person I can be and always being a people pleaser and thinking,

Oh,

If I do this,

This,

And this,

Then I'll be accepted and then I'll be worthy and an experience that I've had in my life is that I found myself going from place to place,

People,

Different people to different people,

Always hoping and wishing that someone would finally accept me or finally deem me worthy and I didn't realize that I was,

You know,

Looking for my self-acceptance and worth outside of myself so strongly and the more that I get in touch with my own truth and,

You know,

Think about the things that I've went through,

I'm like,

You know,

All of that really matters to me and I have to know that I am worthy and that matters to me for me.

That doesn't have to matter to anyone else that I went through that.

I don't have to downplay it because maybe somebody else downplays it.

I know that that matters and that's real and it doesn't have to matter to anyone else for the fact that I know that matters to me and I can make new decisions moving forward in my life to create a better future because of having been through what I have been through,

That I can set a new precedent for what I want in my life and say,

This is the choice that I'm going to make for this because I know where my choices have led me in the past and what those outcomes were,

Now that I have more information for my experience,

I'm going to make new choices that are going to have different outcomes because that's what I would like now and I feel like when we have our past experiences to learn from,

We become more informed to be able to make new decisions from those past experiences to where the decisions that we make now are more of a conscious choice and I feel like a lot of the choices in my past were more unconscious choices and now I feel like I have a chance to make more conscious choices of what I truly care about,

What truly matters to me and I feel like now I have a better understanding of what matters to me and what has value and worth to me and at this point in my life I feel that loving myself and accepting myself for who I am and just simply existing and being here today is enough for me,

That I am enough for me.

I don't have to be in this terrific career to be accepted and be worthy.

I don't have to measure up to one person's standard of this,

This,

This,

And this and then that means,

You know,

You're like a great person in society or something like that.

So I feel like I'm letting go of what other people's standards are and learning about what my truth is,

Understanding that and honoring that and living more for myself and letting go of living for other people because when I put all of my time and energy into other people and that's where I'm,

You know,

Putting all of my love and my energy and then when those people leave I realize I wasn't doing any of that for myself.

I was putting all my energy towards pleasing other people and making other people happy,

You know,

And when those people leave or those situations are gone then I'm sitting here with nothing and I'm like,

Oh,

I need to start building my love and my home in myself and in my heart because I know that I am always going to have me.

So that's something that I feel is important is loving myself and taking care of myself and owning my truth because no one is ever going to understand my truth except me.

So when I go out into the world and,

You know,

Say a situation happens where,

You know,

I really get my feelings hurt or something,

That's not anyone else's responsibility to take care of that for me.

I need to be able to be with myself and sit with myself and,

You know,

Love myself and take care of myself in the ways that I need and show myself the nurturement and love that I need and not wait for someone or something to provide that for me.

I need to know that I can depend on myself to take care of myself and build up my self-worth and self-love and self-care and really own my truth and no one can take that away from me.

No one can take my truth away from me.

So no matter what I do in life,

Owning my truth will translate to everything that I do,

Whether it's when I go to work or,

You know,

Go out in public somewhere or,

You know,

When things don't go as well as what I hoped,

I know that my truth is real and my truth is valid and I know that no one can take that away from me and I know that my truth means something to me and now I don't have to wait for my truth to mean something to someone else.

I think I spent so much time on expressing my truth to other people because it felt so strongly within me like,

Hey,

This matters and this means something and I think I was always trying to express that to the people around me to,

You know,

Try to prove like,

Hey,

This really does matter and it doesn't have to matter to anyone else.

It doesn't have to mean anything to anyone else.

I know that it matters and it means something to me.

So I believe at this point in my life I'm learning that more,

That my truth does matter and I'm the one who has to know that it matters and I believe that in the ways that I can come back to love and take care of myself is my solution to solidify and nurture and take care of my truth and really just taking care of myself in that way and I believe that that's what's going to support me now in my life and knowing my truth,

Understanding my truth and taking care of that within myself without having to expect someone else to understand it or trying to hope that someone does understand it,

I think that it will save me a lot of pain to just know my truth and carry that with me close in my heart and it doesn't have to be explained or be understood by anyone ever that it just is and that's important to me.

So thank you all so much for listening.

This is what I wanted to share about today about owning your truth and I would like to encourage and empower anyone out there that has their own truth and just to share with you that it does matter and you do matter.

Your truth matters,

Your heart and your soul matters and thank you for the love that you've shared today and I really appreciate you being here and what it took for you to get here today.

Thank you so much.