Self-Betrayal

Self-betrayal is an act of abandonment we do when we judge others and ourselves. We trade in beauty for suffering. This is a somber, yet hopeful message, that illuminates the darkness of what occurs and what when we betray ourselves.

Transcript

Self-betrayal is when we trade an image for the truth.

When we project out onto other people an image of who we want them to think we are or who we think they are.

We treat this image as the truth.

Then we are betraying them and ourselves.

When we forget our own truth.

When we think we are broken.

When we think we are not enough.

When we think we are ugly.

When we feel shame and terror and guilt.

We betray ourselves.

And this betrayal is a betrayal of truth and peace and forgiveness.

It's an exchange of not feeling the beauty and love and forgiveness and unconditionality of the universe.

In exchange for suffering,

So many of us would rather be right than to be happy.

We want to prove the stories in our head to be true.

That we are unlovable.

We are unworthy.

We are not enough.

That we have somehow fallen from grace.

And prove that right.

Than to stop that suffering and let ourselves be penetrated by unconditional love.

We can grow up thinking that that shame and embarrassment and guilt and fear and disappointment and rejection.

We can grow up thinking that's what love is.

That's what feels good.

And we've been betrayed as well by the culture and the stories that abuse us.

But most importantly,

We take that personally and then betray ourselves.

And we continue that betrayal even as adults and for many people their entire lives.

So we end up not really living.

And you end up trying to compensate for that.

Trying to create an image,

An idealized self that can never possibly meet up to that.

So it then validates all of those stories,

All of those betrayals.

And you're left with suffering.

Reviews

This quick talk shifted my perspective on self-betrayal. I never thought of "my mask" as an act of betrayal to my truest self. The self inflicted harm we done is what requires healing. Thank you!

Makes a lot of sense . Thank you for this insight .❤️🙏

Thank you!
I love that I’m waking up to understanding this allowing me the opportunity to do what’s necessary for myself my family and the collective 💕

Truer words have not been spoken. Cultural trauma, childhood trauma is tenacious and has been normalized in, at least, North American culture. I have had to be equally persistent in relearning to love myself, have compassion for myself, forgive myself for betraying the the inner beauty of who I am just to be accepted by those who are also stuck in fear and hate of themselves.
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Thank you for your honest words, it's good to listen to you and examine myself. You're so right, how often do I compromise, how often do I please others. Yes, that's something to think about, where am I honest with myself and how much do I stand up for myself, that's very good. Your meditation. Thank you for being there, dear Andrew

Thank you. Enjoy the thoughtful explanations and the paired music

This is so interesting although it doesn’t provide a solution. There is something seductive about feeling sorry for oneself, which is kind of what he is talking about. The self-pity somehow replaces love, I am coming to realize, and so we get stuck there because we don’t believe we deserve love. The insight in this piece is valuable for starting to bring awareness and perhaps lead to starting to look after ourselves. Maybe we would rather be right than happy (I think that is what you said) because we think that to deserve happiness we have to live up to some standard but the fact is we don’t.

Incredible message in a short amount of time. This was completely helpful for a situation this week where I struggled with self- betrayal

This has always been true but my heart bleeds for youngsters growing up today with the well nigh intolerable pressures of social media making bad worse

Something to certainly think about. Thank you so much for sharing.

Spot on. The sadness is how illusive this important learning/lesson is.
Thank you for reminding me and introducing it to others. 🙏😎

Profound. Both heavy and enlightening. Oh, the power we have to choose our path is phenomenal. Thank you for your clear communication of this truth.

Nailed it!
Thanks for the quick dose of brutal honesty. Suffering can be a hard pill to swallow sometimes because we do it to ourselves. 🙏

Seeing the narratives of mind. Suspicion. Guilt. Wrong. Need to fix.
I am starting to not touch it. Because I see it's fraudulence. To choose what is here. Radiance. Emptiness. Unconditional presence. Full.
The mind is a trance tape. It's not like the mind can orchestrate out of identification with the mind. Just this jolt awake again. Thankyou for wiping clean what is always here with your reminder! 🙏🏾✨

Powerful short talk. Needed to hear it this morning. Still get caught up in the old storylines related to abandonment and shame, which do indeed result in suffering.

Thank you 🙏🏻

This is helpful. As someone who has been navigating stories of abandonment his whole life. The real power seems to be understanding more of how I abandon myself.

Simple, sweet, straight to the point! Exactly what I needed to hear this morning! Thank you so much! 💛

Well said. Thank you 🙏🏻

Very good tio listen to every nog and then. Thank you for charing 🙏