Welcome to this EFT tapping session for anxious attachment style.
As somebody who's personally gone through waves and waves of anxious attachment style,
I know the struggle.
Anxious attachment style is not only feeling anxiety,
Worrying,
Overthinking and what is also called as the preoccupied attachment style,
That you are the person in the relationship that is carrying the burden of figuring things out and always thinking one or two or ten steps ahead.
You're also probably focusing on worst case scenarios and there is a lack of trust,
There is a lack of calm,
Stability in the dynamic.
And this might have nothing to do with your partner,
With the person on the other side or maybe it does.
Sometimes it's a combination of the wrong person that triggers your inner child to feel especially worried and anxious or sometimes it's our system that doesn't believe we are worthy of love and that gets anxious when we are in a truly healthy relationship.
In this EFT tapping session we are going to transcend the anxious feelings.
We are not going to dissociate from them but we are going to go through them.
We are going to tap on what we are feeling so the energy can move through us.
We are also going to subconsciously let go of our fear of abandonment and open ourselves up to love.
You will let go of the belief that you are not worthy of love.
You will let go of the need of constant reassurance and instead open yourself up to trusting yourself,
To trusting the other person as well.
Because the anxious attachment style really comes down to your inner child that needs your help,
That needs your love and your reassurance.
And what is often seen with anxious attachment style is that we will go look for that in someone else,
In our partner.
And that's why we often have this dance,
This balance of anxious attachment style attracts avoidance.
Avoidant attracts anxious.
There is a runner and there is a chaser.
But in this practice we will stop running,
We will stop chasing and we will actually run towards our feelings and what we are experiencing right now.
And you can come back to this practice again and again because this will take time.
But it is possible to layer by layer heal that inner anxious part,
Rewire your brain and retrain your subconscious that healthy love is possible,
Healthy love is out there.
Healthy love is a choice.
And just by being here today you already made a big and important choice.
And I'm proud of you.
So enough talking,
Let's get to the tapping.
We will start to tap on the karate chop which is the side of your hand,
The side of your palm.
And you can repeat after me or simply tap with me.
Even though I feel a bit anxious in my relationship,
I create space for it and I love myself through it.
Tap on the top of your head.
Even though sometimes I feel like people will leave me,
Between your eyebrows or I'm afraid that the relationship will end,
Sides of your eyes,
I can still be open to loving myself first.
Below your eyes,
I hold the part deep inside of me that has a fear of abandonment.
Below your nose.
I let them know that I am always here for them and that they are never truly alone.
On your chin.
I will never leave their side.
Below your collarbones.
They can relax into knowing that they are truly and deeply and unconditionally loved.
Take a deep breath in and release.
Tap on the top of your head.
From this place of self-love and self-worth,
Between your eyebrows,
I let go of the need to control everything,
Sides of your eyes and to control everyone in my life.
Below your eyes and I choose to trust the flow of life.
Below your nose,
Knowing that what is meant for me will truly not miss me.
On your chin,
I lovingly let go of the fear of abandonment.
Below your collarbone.
I lovingly let go of tightly grasping and holding on to people.
Take a deep breath in and release.
Tap on the top of your head.
I let go and I surrender.
Between your eyebrows,
I choose to focus on myself.
Sides of your eyes.
I choose to love myself first.
Below your eyes.
I give people space.
Below your nose.
I remember my power and who I am.
On your chin.
I remember my priorities,
My values and my intention in life.
Below your collarbone.
I remember what I want from a relationship and I stay focused on what I truly want.
Take a deep breath in and release.
Start to tap on the top of your head again.
I never settle for less than I deserve.
Tap between your eyebrows.
I let go of the fear of losing and I open myself up to love.
Sides of your eyes.
I release the belief that I am not worthy of love.
Below your eyes.
I let go of the need for constant reassurance.
Below your nose.
And I choose to trust in myself.
On your chin.
What if I am worthy of love and belonging just as I am?
Below your collarbones.
What if I am safe and secure in my relationships even when things are tough?
Take a deep breath in and release.
The top of your head.
How would I show up differently?
Between your eyebrows.
What decisions would I make?
The sides of your eyes.
What if I can trust myself to make good choices?
Below your eyes.
Even when I'm feeling anxious.
Below your nose.
What if I can handle whatever life throws in my way?
On your chin.
What if I can let myself be supported?
Below your collarbones.
What if I am enough just as I am?
Take a deep breath in and release.
Begin to notice how you feel and if you notice any difference from when we started to practice.
We did some very powerful work and I want you to remember that you can still be a work in progress,
You can be aware of your fears,
Of your wounds,
Of your traumas and work on them and still be in a loving relationship.
Those are not mutually exclusive and you do not have to be a perfect person before you meet somebody who is right for you.
I always like to turn things around.
But you also have understanding and compassion if you meet someone and they tell you hey I'm not my perfect person yet,
I'm still going through things.
It's a good sign because we are always going through things,
We are always growing and developing more and more and peeling off deeper layers and layers and layers.
And if we wait until a point where we are completely clean,
Let's say,
Completely healed,
Completely mended then we can wait our whole entire lives.
At least that is my opinion.
I wish you truly the best in your relationships,
I hope this has helped you,
I would love to hear from you.
And just remember to choose someone who chooses you and choose someone who makes your nervous system feel safe.
It is normal to heal triggers,
Relationships are mirrors.
But it is not normal if you are in survival mode every day.
And there might be some indications that this is not the right relationship for you right now.
You don't want to survive through life,
You want to thrive.
Relationship is a partnership and it should be able to have you both growing together,
Not destructing one another.
I send you so much love and I wish you the most beautiful day.
Thank you so much for tapping with me today.
