Six Ways To Increase Your Self-Trust & Heal Burnout (Part 1)

How often are you too exhausted? Do you feel you have very little energy and are unable to deal with people or events happening around you? Do you have days where you feel overwhelmed or worn-out? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need to know that these are all the symptoms of burnout. And to heal it, you need to increase your self-trust.

Ana Barreto, the author of the book "Women, Rice and Beans" and upcoming book "Self-Trust" shares a 19-minute inspirational talk to prompt you to 6 easy ways to re-build your self-trust and end the patterns of exhaustion, worn out, and burnout. This motivational talk will help you make decisions that make you feel better and take action to live the life you planned.

Transcript

Hello everyone.

Welcome to another audio class from the Embrace Your Success series,

Where I'll share with you knowledge and insights that will inspire you to take action and improve the overall quality of your life.

Today we'll talk about a condition that impacts many people.

Often,

They don't even know that they have it or are heading towards it.

So let's find out if you experience this condition,

Shall we?

Do you get tired?

I mean really tired.

Are you exhausted that you have very little energy and are unable to deal with people or events happening around you?

Do you have days where you feel overwhelmed and worn out?

Do you have days where you just can't get out of bed or days that you spend plugged in front of mindless TV programs so you don't have to think?

If you answer yes to any of these questions,

You need to know that these are the symptoms of burned out and today you have an opportunity to start improving the way you use your energy.

I hope you take it.

My name is Ana Barreto.

I'm the author of the book Women,

Rice and Beans,

Nine Wisdoms I Learned from My Mother When I Really Paid Attention,

And the upcoming book Self-Trust,

How to Build Trust,

Heal Burned Out,

And Navigate Through Life on Purpose.

My mission is to support women in their journey to live the life they intended.

I believe that most of the obstacles in our lives are created by us,

Unintentionally of course,

But we can live better lives when we are consciously aware of the ways we think,

Feel,

And act.

There are two parts to this class.

This is part one where we learn the cause of burned out and how to use our own wisdoms to overcome and build yourself.

In part two,

We'll explore the mindset people have that leads to burned out and how to change them.

Be ready to get some tools to help you heal and recover from energy depletion caused by burned out.

By the end of this talk,

You will have six practical tools to help you build your self-trust.

And why do you need to learn to trust yourself more?

That's because burned out is driven by lack of self-trust.

Let me repeat that.

The main reason people get burned out in the first place is because they don't trust themselves or that life is working for them.

When you don't trust in general,

You live by trying to control what you don't have control of.

So grab a pen and your notebook so you can make your own notes.

The key to learning is repetition.

Feel free to listen to this audio over and over.

Each time you listen,

You will pay attention to new insights that you didn't hear the previous time.

Remember to silence your cell phone and close your email browser for about 20 minutes or so.

This is your time.

Give yourself this time today so you can learn how to build self-trust and eliminate burnout from your vocabulary.

People who trust themselves in life in general are happy.

They exude wellness and have the courage to live the life they plan to live.

Burnout is a form of self-sabotage.

It's the act of abandoning yourself.

Burnout is like swimming to the shore and collapsing on the beach.

Or like jumping into the deep end of the pool and forgetting how to swim.

The question that most people ask is,

Why would anyone stop themselves from achieving their own goals?

Why would they have an inner saboteur living inside of them that leads them to work themselves to death and then not succeed?

Why would people have a tremendous capacity to work hard and then sabotage their own accomplishments?

The answer is,

People don't always know that they are doing it.

By the time burnout sets in,

They are already addicted to doing things under massive stress.

They are accustomed to ignoring all the signals that screen depletion.

They are conditioned to always keep doing work.

They have become addicted to stress and they just don't realize it.

People who work in a constant state of stress cannot access their creativity,

Their body wisdom,

Or any knowledge that they already have assimilated.

In simple terms,

The lack of vision,

Knowledge,

Or intelligence is similar to when you lose your keys and you start yelling at everyone and the keys are in your pocket.

You just can't see it.

When problems occur,

People who are addicted to stress do what they do best,

Work harder.

When they believe something is not going the way they need to go,

They work harder.

When they think something may go wrong,

They are exhausted,

But they push through and work even harder.

And why?

They lack trust.

They don't believe that life is working for them and they need to gain control by overdoing it.

Another question that comes to mind is why this brilliant,

Smart,

And competent people would not trust themselves?

Many of them have the courage to start great ventures,

Invest their time and energy into their goals.

So how could they have the ambition and not trust themselves?

They don't know.

But burnout people use action to compensate for the lack of trust.

They want to win,

But there is a little doubt that pushed them to work harder.

The constant hard working leads them to experience stress.

Continuous stress leads to physical,

Mental,

And spiritual depletion.

At this point,

They don't know how to stop,

So the body has to do it for you.

In the meantime,

You lose the ability to access your precious talents you developed over the years.

I come to understand that these people have a primary wound.

I'm not enough.

Sometime between the ages of one and nine,

That child was taught to believe something was missing in them.

Maybe the parents or teacher said something which led to the child to conclude they were less than perfect.

The seed is planted and stays hidden in them only to surface when trust is concerned.

It seems far-fetched,

But that's exactly how it begins.

People are born trusting.

They lose a reduced trust in childhood when well-intended adults or other misaligned children inflict that insecurities on them.

But this is not to blame others.

At some point in life,

We must take responsibility for our own thinking and being.

When we get to know people who lack self-trust,

You will find that they are always protecting,

Defending,

And proving.

People who get burnout think that they have,

One,

Something to prove,

Two,

Something to defend,

And three,

Something to protect.

Please don't go to your spouse or best friend to tell them that the reason they work too much is that their childhood sucked and they just don't trust life.

So they are always defending,

Protecting,

And proving something to someone unconsciously.

This is not for them.

This is for you.

So take a long,

Deep breath.

And if you are still listening,

I invite you to check in with yourself.

Do you really trust yourself?

Can you count on yourself to have your back?

Do you keep the commitments you make to yourself like going to the gym three times a week,

Eating breakfast or keeping a daily meditation practice?

How many times do you hit this news button in the morning?

How many days do you stay up late on your phone or computer just surfing the net and reducing on your already short sleep?

How often do you eat in your car or office?

When you work long hours and forget to eat,

What are you trying to protect?

When you don't take a day off,

What are you trying to prove?

Who are you trying to prove it to when you overload your schedule and you can't sleep?

What are you trying to defend?

You see,

Self-trust is not one thing.

It's many things.

Some people don't trust themselves with money,

But they do in relationships.

They know how to hold their space with a partner,

But not when dealing with bills or paying them on time.

Some people trust themselves with work,

But not with their friends.

They are confident with their decisions and craft,

But they act as a doormat for their partners and friends.

Some people cannot trust themselves with their alcohol or sexual desires.

Others can't trust themselves with their families.

And many use the work hours,

Which were meant to be the means by which we share our talents with the world,

As a way to deplete our energy that is needed for joy.

Do you really have the level of self-trust you need to build your dreams?

Trust is not lost or built overnight.

If you are getting worn out or burn out,

You learn not to listen to the stress signals your body have given you.

You created a habit and it needs to change.

You can try to remove them one by one,

Day by day.

It will take some extreme focus and you must be careful not to create another burnout.

I find that by introducing small acts of self-trust,

You can build your trusting muscles.

Here are six ways to rebuild your trusting muscles.

Number one,

When you feel thirsty,

Drink water.

What?

I'm not joking.

This is this simple.

Drink water every time you are thirsty.

You will be surprised how many people and how often they postpone drinking water.

When you respond to your needs,

Your body intelligence will confirm that you made yourself a priority.

And if you mindfully acknowledge that you are validating your self-trust when you stop whatever you were doing to drink water,

Your self-trust will rebuild faster.

Number two,

When you feel hungry,

Eat food.

No,

I'm not playing with you.

This is just like drinking water.

You need to remind yourself and your subconsciousness that you are a priority.

You matter.

Food is not only fuel for your body but is also medicine for your spirit.

Eat every time you are hungry.

Eating natural foods will help regenerate the organs that keep you alive.

Plus,

Studies have shown that keeping good level of blood sugar,

That what happens when you eat regularly,

Will increase your willpower.

Number three,

When you need a mental day,

Take it.

I mean calling sick.

When you are tired,

Go to sleep.

There is an intelligence force inside of your body that doesn't need you to function.

Your liver,

Kidney,

Or your heart always works without you telling them to.

You don't have to tell your lungs to breathe,

Right?

Every time you push through a natural calling,

You are depleting energy.

Trust your body's intelligence.

It is on your side and its main goal is to support you.

Number four,

Leave yourself subconscious reminders to trust yourself.

Write notes such as trust yourself and place them in your wallet,

Glove compartment,

Medicine cabinet,

Or inside of books you are reading.

You can create a weekly or daily alert for your phone or computer with the same note.

People forget things and this is just human nature.

When you create strategies to help you remember,

Your unconscious self will take notice.

Number five,

Meditate daily.

A daily practice of meditation,

Even for five minutes,

Will support you in making the right decisions and taking the appropriate actions to grow your trust muscles.

When you wake up in the morning,

Start your meditation with the intention to grow your self-trust.

You can use a guided meditation or you can just concentrate on your long deep breaths.

When you least expect,

You will access the inner wisdom that gives you directions,

Ideas,

Or insights on how to grow your self-trust.

Also,

Studies have shown that people who meditate are less reactive and can cope with more stress than people who don't.

Number six,

Exercise.

People who feel tired or work long days believe that they don't have time to exercise.

They think that they are already tired from their to-do lists and adding one more thing to their plate will create more burnout.

Although it seems reasonable to think that way,

It is not true.

Exercise will reduce stress and depletion.

It also gives you more energy.

Exercise pumps you up with endorphins,

Which is your brain's fuel-good chemical that act as a natural painkiller.

It also improves your ability to sleep,

Which in turn reduces stress.

When you are not stressed,

Your ability to think is sharper and clearer.

You know that you need to build your trusting muscles and are able to take conscious actions towards it.

The key is to come up with a plan that works for you.

For me,

When I was told to exercise three times a week,

I began walking after work for an hour.

In the beginning,

It worked.

Then my days became more unpredictable and getting home at 8.

30 p.

M.

Didn't give me any room to exercise.

So I decided to make exercise a non-negotiable task.

I had to do it the first thing in the morning.

So I woke up,

Meditated,

And went to the gym for an hour three to four days a week.

I didn't have the work late excuse or the stressful day.

If you don't like going to the gym,

Just walk.

Stop walking once a week for 30 minutes.

On the second week,

Walk two days for 30 minutes.

On the third week,

Walk three days for 30 minutes.

Make sure you build your exercise routine to three to four days a week for at least one hour.

And remember,

Always consult your physician before you do any exercise.

My dear listener,

Take the time to trust yourself because you are the only one who will stay with you until the end.

I can guarantee you.

If you were going on a long trip,

Wouldn't you like to be with someone you love and trust?

The best person to trust is you.

I hope that you follow some of the suggestions.

These simple exercises will recondition your ability to listen to your body and reduce stress.

With less stress,

You notice that you are less tired and more open,

Loving,

And congruent.

It's essential that you rebuild your self-trust.

It may not be easy,

But you can do it.

We can't have you sabotaging your accomplishments or your passion.

Remember,

You are the heart of humanity.

When you do well,

Everyone does well.

Your inspired life will inspire others.

Let's embrace your success.

We are waiting.

If you feel this has given you value,

Please share on your favorite social media.

This is Anna Barreto signing off.

Reviews

This is great! Such an interesting and convincing approach to healing from burnout, and creating habits to build self trust. Thank you 🙏

This is very helpful. Looking forward to listening to the rest of the series. Thank you!

This was absolutely wonderful, and has a lot of great reminders! Thank you so much 💕

This was truly wonderful Ana, thank you so much! What an inspiring talk and fabulous reminders. I am going to listen to this again and also listen to part two. Thank you 🙏🏻 for sharing your gifts 🎁 with us! 💖💖

Best explanation of burn out I have found. I needed to hear this!!

Really good talk with some valuable insights. I'd go so far as to say this is one of life's deepest, most valuable secrets. We just have to be ready to hear it.

Lovely peppy music! Very easy and known tips and yet listening to these in this format was really interesting. Thanks!

Great talk, very practical and inspiring. Thank you!

This is a tried and true favorite meditation for me. I listen to it mostly on weekends when I have more time. Great practical map to building our self trust.

Great insight about burnout with practical action steps!

Wise words spoken, no doubt, from life experience. Thank you for your heartfelt wisdom & care.

Practical common sense ...just do it.

Thank you Ana. Your guidance was straightforward with clear examples and very practical. It resonated well and deeply.

Thank you so much I cried through this and feel it was something that I was searching for and really needed to hear. Namaste!

Lovely! Good advice on trusting oneself. Drink water when thirsty. Loved it.

so many helpful steps, thank you so much for sharing! 🙏🧡

I am enjoying your energy. Obrigada!

Thank you so much the lesson in life🥰🥰

This was a great audio. Take time to myself and give Me time to me.

Great- thanks 🙏