Stop Taking Things Personally

Have you been often told, "Stop taking things so personally"? The vagus nerve connects us to the energy of empathy and feeling others. With mindful breath awareness, we begin to calm the vagus nerve and start the process of letting go. This practice helps us not take everything so personally and make space for our true nature.

Transcript

Hello and welcome to this guided meditation experience into the energy of stop taking everything so personally.

To begin,

Gently close down your eyes and connect to your breathing body.

Allow yourself three deep long inhalations and exhalations,

Releasing tension and bringing yourself here now.

For this stop,

Really Bring your awareness into your feeling body.

You can start to notice how your body changes with every inhale and every exhale.

What does it feel like to be you?

What does it feel like to be alive?

Maybe bring your awareness to your fingers and feel the electricity of your cells buzzing and begin to allow your attention to go wherever you feel sensation in the body.

And wherever you ended up,

Just settle there,

Allowing your exhalations to be long and slow,

Releasing any tension or stagnation.

Bring to notice your inhalation pouring into the belly and feel a gentle expansion in your entire torso all the way down to your tailbone.

And very gently press your navel to spine on your exhalation,

Emptying the breath in completion.

Allow your inhales to be long and full,

Filling all the way to the collarbones and exhale completely.

And follow this feeling,

Breathing on your own for five breaths.

You may have noticed that your nervous system has really calmed down doing this deep diaphragmatic breathing.

This type of breathing calms your vagus nerve,

A cranial nerve that runs from your medulla oblongata down to your colon,

Through your throat,

Through your stomach.

This nerve connects a straight line of energy through your entire self.

Continue your deep diaphragmatic breathing,

Continuing your connection to this nerve.

And the calm that comes when we connect to this space.

The vagus nerve can be thought of as a string on a violin.

And this string can vibrate to frequency,

To the constant waves of energy that our universe communicates in.

In other words,

Your vagus nerve is connected into your ability to feel empathy.

I'd like to bring you back through time and space to when you were just an infant.

At this time of your development,

You cannot tell the difference between you and the other person in the room.

Your vagus nerve,

Your empathy,

Your connection,

Does not yet have the awareness of a sense of self.

So if you are in the same room as another infant and they start crying,

You can't tell the difference between you and the other baby so you cry too.

Their violin string plays a sound and so does yours,

Catching the frequency.

Eventually,

You begin to differentiate between you and the others around you.

That is their energy.

This is my energy.

You can still feel the notes that they play on their strings,

But you can now differentiate that that is their song and this is mine.

But sometimes we get caught up and confused at that stage of development and some of us did not gain the skill to truly know when energy is not ours.

Even if we become stuck in a pattern of not knowing when someone's energy does not have to invade our own,

We can become chronically codependent on the people around us.

And this chronic codependence can look like taking everything personally.

So continue your deep long inhales and exhales,

Expanding the belly,

Contracting the belly button on the exhale.

And let go of any concepts we've spoken about so far.

And bring yourself back into your center,

Giving the mind a rest from thinking for a minute.

And let go of any concepts we've spoken about so far.

And let go of any concepts we've spoken about so far.

By bringing our attention back into our own body,

Our own breathing,

Our own feeling,

We start to break the pattern of taking everything personally and coming back to our own original song.

And with compassion for yourself and for others,

We can begin a new pattern of sending compassion to the feelings that come up in response to our environment and the people we're with.

Some things that happen to us in our day-to-day life that seem ironic or coincidental.

Not everything has to mean something.

Not everything has to be a sign all the time.

We don't have to take everything so personally.

So,

As you continue this deep breathing,

You're teaching yourself the art of letting go.

We are feeling creatures,

Feeling beings.

But if we can learn to let go of everything that happens,

Of everything that we feel,

We can make space for new and make space for the present moment.

Creating space for you.

The sooner you can let go,

The sooner you can play a different note,

A different song.

Breathing in and breathing out into peaceful relaxation.

And with compassion for yourself and for others,

We can begin a new pattern of sending compassion.

And if it helps,

Imagine your vagus nerve align from your colon into your brain.

And really looking at this pathway as the path of letting go,

Our colon is the physical representation of letting go.

So this is a channel for our entire system to truly ground our energy in the here and now.

To release what's no longer serving.

And to let go into your essence and into your truth.

Breathing in and breathing out,

Easing deeper into your relaxation.

And with compassion for yourself and for others,

We can make space for the present moment.

To end this practice.

We're going to bring a buzzing sensation to the throat location of your vagus nerve.

This nerve is directly connected into your vocal cords.

So I invite you into B breath Pranayama,

Making a soft humming sound,

Feeling the sensation in your throat,

Taking a deep inhalation and exhaling your B breath Pranayama.

With harshched breathingー Now rules and restrictions see the repression and DEEP HYBoA by children.

Please take your time,

Bringing your awareness back to the present moment and softly enter into the rest of your day.

May you feel whole and complete just as you are.

May you feel whole and complete just as you are.

May you feel whole and complete just as you are.

Reviews

Making me think and feel.

The analogy of the vagus nerve and energy vibrating impacting the violin strings was very insightful to understand better the power of empathy and where we start and finish. Thank you 🙏🏻

She went at the perfect pace. Her voice, tempo, and message were all very soothing. I was able to get out of my typical resting anxious state for a while and connect with my true self

Thanks for this gift of becoming unstuck from old thinking.

Thank you for the reminder and lesson that not everything has to have a meaning behind it 🙏

A soothing voice & an important message 💕 I love the quiet spaces to deep breathe too

I loved all the different aspects of this meditation. I feel so relaxed and grounded. Thank you!

Loved this thank you!!

This is a phenomenal meditation that has been a HUGE help to me. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!🙏🏽

Amazing and powerful. Thank you so much. 🙏🏽✨

Very nice & calming meditation. 🕊

So beautiful. Thank you 🙏🏻

This was very insightful. Much needed. Thank you!

Wonderfully relaxing and informative meditation! Thank you!🕉💜🙏🏻

Thank you 🙏 That was Beautiful 🧡🧡

So relaxing. Good pranayama cues, thank you🙏🏼

Very relaxing a d helpful.

Excellent relaxation tool. I will be practicing! Thank you 🙏 ❤️

Very soothing and helpful. Thank you🙏

Thoughtfully and caringly done. I read all the reviews before listening and did not find the critical ones to hold true for me. Your voice was the teacher's, not the parent's. You are sharing what you have learned in your own experience. The information on the vagus nerve was foundational. I have been empathic all my life. It took many years to learn that just because I could feel what others felt, I did not have to take those feelings on. I became so saturated with the feelings of others, I became very ill. My healing was a turning point in my life. This meditation is a good starting point for those looking to shift out of such dysfunction. Those who need it will be attracted by the title. Bless you. Namaste.