Shift This To That

This - to -That is a growth activity I introduced at The Pines Retreat. It's where you take a This - meaning a block, a stuck point, a reaction, a negative something and shift it to a That - a positive and proactive behavior, thought or reaction.

Transcript

Today's the day,

Thanks for showing up.

I'm Allison Shuhazi,

A super fan of energy work and engaging the intuition.

My career has spanned many genres,

Bringing me to become an intuitive coach and Reiki master.

I continue to collect a bundle of pivotal moments,

Whispers of wisdom,

And funny stories that have helped keep me real along this journey.

I hope that this podcast will ignite a spark within you to connect with your intuition and your whispers of wisdom.

So get ready because it's time to shift today with me,

Allison.

Hello,

Hello and welcome to March 2020.

We made it.

Wow.

Three months into 2020.

It's kind of hard to believe.

But here we are.

I do want to say a shout out to everyone.

Thank you for your kind messages,

Phone calls and texts that I've received about the last podcast that I did.

Domestic perception was pretty heavy and I really do appreciate your thoughts and prayers.

But this week,

We're going to be lightening the load a little bit.

So let's go ahead and get started.

This actually goes along with a story recently,

I'd had lunch with some friends last week and there was a sweet little experience happening right in front of me and a little lesson that I thought,

You know what,

I think I'm going to share this on my podcast.

So here I am.

So last Friday,

I had went and met some friends for lunch at this little one of my favorite spots here in Little Rock.

It's called the root.

So yummy.

It's all locally sourced food and they just have I love their menu.

Anyway,

I had arrived early.

And it was a very beautiful sunny day in the 60s.

You know,

It was one of those the sky is blue,

But the breeze has it was a little crisp,

But the sun just was so bright.

It kept the temperatures just right and it was really beautiful.

Well,

I had gone to a local shop to purchase my friend Paula Martin's poetry book.

It's called North Star.

It's real beautiful on the inside out.

I mean,

If you want to check it out,

I know I posted something about it on my Facebook page,

But I had arrived early,

Had her book and sat down and just thought,

You know,

I'm gonna sit here in this patio and just enjoy the sunshine because we haven't had many of those days.

And,

And so here I am just sitting there waiting for my friends and,

And when I was sitting there I noticed that in this little,

Little outside space,

There were two women and they had three between the two of them,

They had three small children.

And they may be the oldest little girl might have been just four,

But they were really young.

I mean,

They were that would have been the oldest that they would have been.

Anyway,

The children were playing while the women were enjoying their adult conversation,

Which I 100% could connect with exactly what they were doing having when my boys were smaller,

Just being able to get outside and having your kids out and having them play in a safe space and you enjoying conversations with a girlfriend while having a great lunch.

I mean,

Oh,

Yeah,

Just I could completely relate to everything that they were doing.

Anyway,

The patio area in at the route is it's almost like being in someone's backyard.

I mean,

There's some grass,

There's some stepping stones,

Some,

Like rustic reclaimed metal furniture,

And it's all kind of scattered around.

There's a sweet little plastic slide and other toys and stuff for the kids to play in.

But I couldn't help but watch these kids.

I mean,

I'm reading the poetry,

And then I'm hearing the giggles.

And of course,

I've got to look up to see what they're doing.

And they were so funny.

So there was there were okay,

So there were the blondes in the brunette.

So there was a little boy,

Little girl who are obviously siblings.

And then there's a sweet little brunette girl.

And they were so tiny,

Gosh,

They were so so cute.

Anyway,

I watched as they were playing and they were you know,

They're running around,

They're climbing on the slide.

And then there was this mini little table,

Little mini,

Almost like one of those old ice cream tables.

Do you remember those as kids?

I know my cousins,

If you are listening,

You know exactly what I'm talking about.

But it was a sweet little table and these sweet little chairs and they were pulling the chairs to the little table and sitting there and they were pretending like they were sharing a meal and just being so cute.

But the little boy,

The little blonde boy,

He was maybe three,

Maybe.

I mean,

If he was three,

He had just turned three.

I mean,

He might have been two ish.

Anyway,

He kept trying to escape,

Because the whole area was fenced.

And there was one little opening that you could come in and,

And he didn't want he just kept trying to escape through the fence because you know,

Obviously he's wanting to explore.

He was just so curious about everything,

But his mom kept redirecting him back in.

You know,

It's too scary out there to be by yourself,

She kept saying,

And I completely understand.

Well,

Their lunch had arrived.

And the kids all ran to find their seat at this cute little mini table that was out there and that's again,

The top was metal and they were just sitting there and just anticipating lunch and but the mom of the little blonde kids said they couldn't sit there.

No,

You can't sit there.

I mean,

It was perfect,

They're perfect height,

They had the chairs set.

I mean,

It was just like it was cleaned off.

There was a little rust on the top,

But it was cleaned off.

Probably cleaner than the other tables.

She's like,

No,

You can't sit there because it's got rust.

It's the perfect size for you.

You've set it up,

But you can't use it.

You need to come over and sit in this big awkward table and chairs that you can't reach your food so you have to kind of stand on the chairs to eat and she didn't say all this.

Obviously,

This is what I'm thinking in my head.

I'm like,

Why are you not letting them sit at this sweet little table that they've got all set up?

And it's because it had a little rust on it.

I'm thinking,

Hmm,

This is interesting.

Well,

One thing after I'm paying attention to this,

What's happening it did it kind of made me pause.

I stopped reading my poetry and I really just sat there for a minute.

I'm thinking,

Wow.

How often maybe have collected I'm thinking collectively again,

So I'm gonna use the word you.

How often have you wanted to do something maybe buy something,

Try something,

But someone else redirects you because it's not new.

It might be scary.

It's not what they want you to do,

Or whatever it is,

Whatever the redirection is,

How often does this happen?

And how often do you how do often do you as a person redirect someone else because of the fear of the unknown,

Or the fear of what might happen the fear of the assumption?

Well guess what I have I've done this.

It's happened to me and I know for a fact I do this with my kids,

Especially our boys for sure.

But I have to say lately I've noticed that I am sitting back and I am allowing them to explore more.

Definitely I have always let them fall down.

I'm not one of those that's gonna be like,

Nope,

No,

No,

No,

No,

No,

No,

No,

No,

Unless obviously it's gonna be a hospital visit.

But I let them make mistakes and you know,

Do try something new.

Because if we if I as a parent don't allow them the opportunity to say yes or no,

They'll just get stuck in fear mode.

And God knows I have been in fear mode sometimes.

And I know because I've been taught to be fearful.

So even myself,

So like if I'm thinking about myself,

And when I redirect myself,

So here I am doing this podcast.

And honestly,

I would have started this a year ago,

If fear was not holding me back.

Fear was definitely holding me back.

And it was the fear of sharing.

And I love to share,

I have no problem sharing.

But it's not the fear of the share.

It's the fear of what others are going to think about what I'm sharing the fear of the unknown.

You know,

That thing that we're taught,

Be afraid of the unknown.

Well,

Recently,

I had someone a person who I know is guided by fear asked me how many listeners I had,

How many listeners do you have?

Like,

How many people are actually listening to your podcast?

And I thought,

You know what,

The first couple of weeks,

I knew exactly like,

Immediately out of the gate within hours,

I had like 300 downloads,

Which I was shocked,

Absolutely shocked.

And then that first two weeks,

I kept looking and looking and looking and looking to see how many how many how many people are listening,

How many people are listening?

How many people are liking how many whatever,

And then I stopped.

I stopped and you know what,

Right now I have no clue.

I mean,

There,

I could just be sitting in my room here talking to myself,

No one might be hearing this at all.

However,

Then I sit back into my intentions.

What is the purpose that I use to create this podcast?

Well,

I,

The purpose I have is to share my shifts,

Because I have lots of them,

Share skills that I've used,

Scare some share some of the knowledge that I've gained through these shifts and through working with some of my clients and then also the wisdom because we all have it.

And we're going to share these positive moments and or share the negative to the positive so we can learn from each other's mistakes.

We might be able to just connect in a way and share our shifts by sharing what our thoughts are,

What our behaviors are,

What our actions and reactions what the negative was,

Shifting it to a positive and proactive approach.

Well,

Recently,

This is a couple weeks ago,

I was a co host to the Pines retreat.

And I conducted this activity and it was during the section of the third method,

Which is shifting your behaviors,

Thoughts and reactions.

And it's called from this to that.

So it's where you take a this,

Which means like a block or a stuck point,

A reaction,

You're having something negative going on,

And you shift it to a that,

And that that would be a positive,

Proactive behavior,

Thought or reaction or action.

So here I have a list of examples that I shared with the group.

And I thought,

You know what,

With what we're talking about today,

I'm going to go ahead and share some of these shifts with you from this to that.

So what if you shift being rejected to reflection?

Maybe if you're constantly feeling rejected,

Maybe you need to pause and sit Why are you being rejected?

What What does that feeling mean to you?

How about this one shift,

A reaction,

Meaning you have been degrading,

Or you have degraded someone on social media when you did not have all the facts to,

You know,

We can help each other out by helping each other out and holding each other up,

Not pushing each other down.

That's kind of a big one.

What if you shift?

I'm feeling overwhelmed and anxious.

I'm so overwhelmed.

Oh my god,

What am I gonna do?

I can never get all this done.

I fall and I can't get up whatever it is.

I'm completely overwhelmed to you know what,

Maybe I just need to ask someone for help.

It's not a sign of weakness to ask for help.

It's actually a sign of strength.

I'm not sure if you've ever heard that,

But it's definitely a sign of strength.

Here's another one.

How about if you shift?

I'm so confused that I just need to pause and give myself a minute to,

You know,

Compose myself and just see what I'm feeling.

What am I really feeling?

Why am I so confused?

Shift,

I always do what you want to do.

Like a snippy.

I can hear that being.

I always do what you want to do and shift it to guess what?

Remember choices are abundant.

If you don't want to do that,

Make another suggestion or just go do something different.

How about this one?

This is a big one.

I am so uncomfortable.

Like you may be anxious again,

You might be just really,

Really uncomfortable.

Shift it to I'm evolving.

I'm evolving.

I'm changing.

I'm shifting.

Maybe this isn't where I need to be.

Maybe I need to shift out of this group.

Maybe I need to shift out of this relationship.

Maybe I need to shift my job because I'm really talented and I'm not getting paid what I'm worth.

Maybe it's time to evolve.

You know,

Only you can do that.

Only you can make yourself evolve.

No one else could do that.

What about this one?

Why don't they just love me?

Well,

Shift it to guess what?

I'm full of love for myself.

And if you're not full of love for yourself,

Well then give me a call because we need to work on that together.

I can help you out with that.

How about this one?

I hear this one.

This is kind of a repeating thing I hear.

Why don't my plans ever work the way I want them to work?

Why is it not working exactly the way I've planned it out and I need it to go this way?

Well guess what?

This might be the ultimate time that you need to pause.

You need to listen and you need to go with the flow because what you might want might not be what's best for you.

I know that one might be a little hard to swallow.

Here's one and this happened in our house.

Why is my child lying and hiding things from me?

Shift it to what have I done to create so much fear in my child that they need to lie and hide things from me?

Put it back on yourself.

Kids are in survival mode half the time and I remember our kids were hiding candy.

Oh my God,

I'll never forget it.

We found candy hidden in a pillow.

I thought way to go.

Good hiding spot,

Right?

My husband wasn't too thrilled about that one.

But I'm like,

Guys,

Why are you lying and hiding?

Well,

You know,

I just think you're going to say no and well,

What if I get hungry at night or whatever?

And I'm like,

Well,

Then eat if you're hungry,

Eat,

Don't hide the food,

Just eat.

Maybe choose something better than a Snickers bar.

But you know,

Guys,

You don't need to hide it,

You know,

And I'm like,

And if,

If you do hide it,

Don't hide it in your pillowcase because you don't want bugs in your bed.

Okay,

That totally shifted everything.

Anyway,

When we start having conversations at our retreat about these shifts,

Because a lot of these examples I used at the at the retreat,

I could feel the room shifting,

I could see light bulbs going off above people's heads.

And we had them create shifts,

This is and then other people giving them that and it was magical.

It was energizing.

It was awesome.

So that's why I wanted to share this activity with you.

Because we have a choice to make a shift.

And as adults,

As parents,

As teachers,

As co workers,

As friends,

As whoever you are,

Whatever you feel like your title might be,

You can shift the way you speak and encourage others and mentor others,

Especially our children,

Especially our children.

We need to help again,

What do we need to do?

We need to instead of pushing each other down to push each other down,

Raise each other up to raise each other up.

Let's shift this forward.

Well,

Thank you for joining me today.

And if you do like this episode,

Feel free to leave me a note and you can see all my connections in my show notes.

Feel free to share this episode and also leave me a review because I greatly appreciate your feedback.

Well,

Until next time,

Shift today into a greater tomorrow.

Reviews

Alison, has “real person” approach, with her own stories and life examples, it makes her teachings that much easier to take in, to interalize for yourself. I’m happy to have found her here on Insight Timer.

Loved the idea of how a simple shift from "this" (from old limiting thought) to "that" (new expansive thought) can totally change my life experience!