Welcome.
My name is Asha Kennedy.
Today's meditation is about how you can set natural boundaries.
I think we all encounter challenges around this.
Perhaps you feel you lack boundaries,
And this may feel like you give yourself away,
You give your power away,
Or that you set boundaries that are too strong and you feel too closed off for fear of being more open even though you'd like to.
In this meditation I will invite you to look at boundaries in a completely different way,
A way that creates natural boundaries that don't require you put up fences or defenses or feel fearful that you will be overpowered.
If you're like me,
Empathic,
Highly sensitive,
You may feel also that you easily take on others energies and feelings.
I hope that this little meditation will help you create more natural boundaries with ease and flow.
The kind of boundaries I'm referring to come from the soul of who you are.
We all have natural boundaries whether we know it or not.
Boundaries that aren't a mental construct created in part as a reaction to something that we felt hurt from in the past.
This type of boundary I'm inviting you to explore becomes more of an open place,
A place that doesn't imprison you.
Boundaries that naturally arise as the essence of who you are and what you value.
Your boundaries are not solid things like the structures we see in the external world.
So instead of thinking of boundaries like solid fences,
Brick walls,
Let's soften into a different kind of internal boundary that is fluid and flexible rather than solid.
Boundaries that can change depending on the situation and even though this type of boundary is flexible it is also very strong.
Think of bamboo.
Bamboo that has the flexibility to sway in the wind and yet is extremely strong.
If you set a boundary that is too solid it will break.
Remember natural boundaries come as a continuous exploration and investigation of what is truly important to you.
This is the key.
Boundaries come from knowing who you are and what you value and anchoring into that.
Having a clear connection to knowing yourself and what's important to you is the ingredient for natural boundaries to arise.
So I want you to take a moment now to get yourself comfortable and receptive and we'll close the eyes if it's safe for you to do so and relax into our inner wisdom to explore what it is that is really important and what we value in our life.
Place your hands on your heart and as you breathe imagine all that busy energy swirling around in your head beginning to trickle down like a gentle waterfall into your heart.
A place of boundless space and loving support for you.
Stay lightly connected with your breathing and give your body time to let go of any tightness,
Any contractions.
Imagine the flow of your breath entering any areas of stress gently unwinding and unraveling the tensions.
Begin to notice your feet.
And your hands.
And I want you to notice the sensations of sinking deeply into the support that is under your body right now whether you're sitting or lying down.
Sink into the support.
Feel your hands on your heart again and take one hand down to your belly.
And we're going to rest here a few moments staying connected to the breath and allowing the breath to create more and more space within us.
Now I will ask you a question.
When I ask the question don't go into your head but simply listen.
Listen with your whole body.
Listen deeply to the question posed without needing an immediate answer.
It may be immediate or it may not so don't force for any outcome.
The question you ask yourself now is what do I stand for?
What is really important to me?
And can I see that this has always been a thread in the tapestry of my life?
What do I stand for?
What is essential in my life?
There may be one thing or there may be several things that come up.
As you continue to stay connected to your breathing letting this question swirl through the body reflect back on your life up to this moment in time and notice the things that you instinctually value.
Like for example freedom,
Solitude,
Connection,
Fun.
These are just a few examples.
I want you to keep feeling into what you extinct instinctually value.
Something that's been there since you were a child.
Something that you've always valued.
Now if nothing comes in this moment that we're meditating together just let it be and you can take time after listening to this to feel into the question again and listen.
Listen for the answer as it arises from your heart,
From your body.
And then take time to write out the answers that were revealed to you.
And after you've written them out I want you to look at each one if there is more than one.
And I want you to anchor these things in by listing out ways that will support what you stand for.
And listing the things that don't.
When you take a clear stand for what's important to you and you know that in your heart and soul your natural boundaries will arise and support you.
There's no need to mentally construct a boundary.
It's all about knowing what you value,
What's important in your life and what you stand for.
And the more solid that you are in that the natural boundaries will be there.
