Burning Karma

This conversation addresses various topics suggested by the White Path disciples, like: Can we burn Karma? What is the difference between Responsibility and Worry? Do they go together, or can we be responsible without worrying? Join us to allow our united consciousness to expand as we grow on the path.

Transcript

So,

Welcome everyone.

To this opportunity we give ourselves every week,

Stop the rush,

Hold hands and walk the path together.

How are you all doing today?

Early morning Saturday?

Oh,

I don't know what's the time.

This is your chance to contribute.

Your questions are guiding this session.

So don't be shy,

Don't censorize yourself.

Lay everything that is still bothering,

Disturbing,

Everything that you feel that is awake,

That stands between you and an awakened consciousness.

Would like to be the first one to it.

Jump into the water.

Can you speak more on overcoming perfectionism?

I know it's letting go of judgment,

But practically day to day,

How do I do this?

Thank you.

We just need to redefine what perfection means.

Don't stop being perfectionist.

Be perfectionist.

But realize that perfect is not different than your immediate reality.

Usually when we say perfectionist,

We simply point to people who chronically live in the gap between what is and what they believe it should have been.

Whatever is happening right now is not good enough,

Not accurate enough,

Not perfect enough.

And the different reality which they have an idea about should manifest for them to be content,

Which of course never happens.

Why?

Because they live in the gap.

It's not about a certain reality,

It's about staying in the gap.

It's about choosing to be discontent all the time.

The idea of just resting in what is is too overwhelming,

Too dangerous.

Why?

Because in what is,

They feel they lose a sense of control.

Because what is,

Is already happening.

There's nothing you can do about that.

The present moment is inevitable.

We can only hope to do something about future events and their consequences.

But the present moment as it is,

It's too late.

It's already manifesting.

So the idea of just resting in what is is scary.

This moment as it happens,

Expand your consciousness to realize perfection,

Here and now.

It's not a compromise that one is willing to compromise their idea about what should happen and accept the present moment as the only alternative to the perfect idea they have in their head.

No.

It's to wake up to how amazing this is already.

It's got nothing to do with compromise.

It's everything to do with the realization of divinity manifesting in what happens as what happens.

So as a disciple on the path,

It's always that invitation to drop your idea about what should have happened.

Only when you let go of those ideas you are available to experience the present moment fully.

Only when you prefer the present moment over your idea again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again and again 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contingencies enough then if something bad were to happen or you know whatever the outcome is then there's this sort of also looking back and this I wasn't good enough I didn't do enough I didn't do all the right things to prevent this from happening or make this outcome different or whatever like we had some sort of control over the whole thing you don't you understand you don't you don't you don't you don't you don't you need to wake up to that control is an illusion yeah whatever you think you can do to manipulate life it's an illusion you are affecting life 100 but you cannot control it there is a huge difference between the two you are a part of life a fabric of life itself and everything that happens influences you and everything that happens within you influences life 100 but you cannot control the outcome the end result the end result this you can't it's an illusion wake up life is much more mysterious than your own agenda so if you have to worry prepare for a possible danger or whatever you do that because that's the responsible thing to do you know it's the responsible thing to to worry or the responsible thing to do something to prepare to prepare just making a distinction to prepare I mean if you hear in the weather forecast that there is a hurricane heading your way you know so you go to the shop and you buy essentials and you know you lock your windows or whatever you need to do to prepare for that danger of course yeah secrecy of life comes first but you don't live in fear there is a huge difference between the two as a parent you take care of your children you create a healthy environment for them to grow etc whatever but you don't live in fear can you see the difference it's a huge difference huge difference worry doesn't mean to be afraid worry at least in hebrew there is one word taking care of business is lidog and to worry is lidog it's the same word for two different things so the invitation for the english speakers is to take fear out of that and just do whatever you need to do to take care of business and let go of thoughts that try to steal your attention from what is actually happened to what may happen okay now responsibility responsibility is nothing to do with worry it's not that if you do something or feel something you are responsible and if you don't do something or don't feel something you're not responsible don't look for responsibility in the realm of doing we have a whole talk about responsibility go and listen to that responsibility is not is nothing to do with fear nothing the opposite it's everything to do with the opposite force what is the opposite force to fear is it's love true responsibility is an expression of love not of fear people think if i do something i'm responsible but if i avoid doing something then i'm not responsible no no it's not the case at all sometimes the responsible thing to do is to avoid doing let go and let your child make their mistakes and learn from it right as a parent we know that sometimes it's not to interfere or intervene and let them learn their lesson stay out of it our reflex is to protect and no no no no no sometimes the right thing to do is not to do how do you know what is the right thing to do when there is no fear so don't worry your thoughts try to steal your attention and take it away from the present moment to whatever is may happen in the future don't go there yeah it's not interesting i mean of course it's very interesting but why is it interesting because it comes with drama and we are addicted to that problem all the terrible thing that may happen and in the meantime here is quite boring sit here and talking there's there's nothing much going on but i'm telling you the day you prefer that boring mundane moment that is happening right now although the drama that your thoughts suggests is the day you wake up and says to that effect is choice an illusion too then it feels like my choices affect the outcome or that part of or is or that's part of the illusion because sometimes it's very straightforward more move the glass from the edge of the table so it doesn't spill that's me controlling the spill is the difference still controlling but not doing it from a place of fear yes like if it spilled i'd still be fine with it is that taking care of business yes yeah do do it what but don't be afraid don't be motivated by fear do the right thing make sure that you're not constantly governed by fear everything you do is just creating another barricade between you and life to protect yourself from a possible danger the end game is already known guys it's a losing game why postpone the inevitable life will touch you whether you want it or not whether it's going to be now or on your deathbed it will touch you are you here to postpone that inevitability or are you here to open yourself to life embrace your the touch of life pleasurable and painful this is the question you need to ask yourself there is no other question are you here to avoid the pain and dwell only in the pleasure that you it's a guaranteed life full of frustration choice is an illusion yes there is only the right thing to do in any given moment or not to do there is only one natural harmonious thing and it's not even a question i mean it's so obvious that question of what to do is redundant but you can only be available to know that if you are devoid of fear the only reason you're contemplating between choices is because you are led by fear what will i gain what will i lose how will that contribute to my agenda you see that the other day when we had our more intimate meeting on tuesdays the which you are invited which everyone is invited to and we we were discussing this very thing and it became apparent that it's not so much about the choice the choice of what you choose doesn't really matter what we get wrapped up in is all of the drama around the choice the choice the answer is is there always it's just a matter sort of taking time to find it and when you honestly look at it you already know right the doubt takes you back from the knowing and put you back on the fence you know but i'm not sure do i really know is it the right thing to do the doubt takes you back but if you look inside deeply you already know how do you know this is where love floats this is what your heart is telling you yes yes let's go come on come on but your head is saying no no no wait wait wait i'm not sure what will i gain what will i lose right yeah i i i was finding it interesting to make that realization that you know once you sort of realize that you're worrying about something and then you you you can see that and you sort of realize well what what good does that do you know that's not helping anybody mostly not myself you know and then and then you think about okay so could i be doing something you know and that sort of illusion of making a decision about doing something to help the situation or to help your children or you know and then that all it gets that's what i meant earlier about it all kind of muddies the water with thinking like oh well maybe i'm not a good enough mom or parent you know maybe i'm not doing enough or the right things to help my kid or that's why they're like this or whatever you know and we just sort of you know pour more mud and stuff all into the mix of things um you know and and and so you you sort of can clear all that out and realize all all that they your children really need to to know is that you're you're there for them and and you love them and they they feel like they are loved and and belong and then and then it all sort of clears up and oh okay yeah that's easy there's a real freedom in realizing that so for me that when i was having this discussion with your own last last week which is why it came up and he said to me i think you're mixing up worry with responsibility and so that's why that that question came up for me today which i thought was very interesting marcy says i like the expression worrying is praying for what you don't want so i'm adding to that drop the i don't want drop it all together drop the don't drop the resistance it's the aversions that you have to life and all possibilities it can endure don't that otherwise you will never find freedom you'll keep on navigating between situations i this i want that i don't want trying to walk in the rain but stay dry there is no freedom there an awakened consciousness wants everything with a passion imagine a version of yourself that wants everything with a passion everything that life has taught passionately as if it was the first time it happens you're completely accessible complete all your own all your sensors are completely lit up to embrace the present moment as it happens this is where you want to direct your growth towards doesn't matter if it's pleasant or unpleasant painful or pleasurable whatever life has everything to offer and i have no agenda whatsoever other than staying open soft receptive with a full heart and a willing soul that's it what do you say is this doable does this doable is this doable does this sound like a vision you would like to embrace yes or no yes or no people are still contemplating about this invitation if not please share why not why do you think it's irrelevant why is there a but tony says yes but not easy to welcome the problems of life there are no problems in life who told you that life has problems there are no problems in life just lessons and experiences some pleasant some unpleasant some meet your expectations some contradict them so what yes some moments in life are very intense very challenging some are very dull boring open yourself wide enough to embrace all all types of moments then life will not be a threat anymore many many years ago i was teaching a course in spain and a guy a businessman who took the course came to me after the course and he said something like yaron you know what you teach is very profound but you know i have my problems i need to solve before i can be available to apply this so i i smiled and i said you know you will on your journey you will come to two realizations the first realization is that these problems that you experience are not yours there's nothing personal about them every person on this planet has the same challenges they are not yours to resolve even though you know we have a very personal attachment to those situations and we create an identity around them but that the truth is that they are not ours to begin with it was just moments in time circumstances and then the second realization will be that these were not problems to begin with so they are not yours and they are not problems wake up do you think he's made that realize those realizations yet that was 30 years ago yeah yeah not 30 25 years ago from all the people here no one said a resounding yes no one what was the question again does this sound like a vision you would like to adopt you would like to direct your life towards yes one righteous man in sodom and gomorrah if you're still hesitating ask yourself what is the doubt this is a profound moment in your journey don't waste it what is still the doubt what are you still pondering about is it doable is it feasible is it too dangerous what what is it try to be as precise as you can why can't i just embrace that invitation to love life and stop being afraid of it so ask yourself truthfully honestly courageously and of course if you want to share that's your opportunity varsity says how do we rewire our brain not to worry you know i once i remember driving out of a parking lot and at the exit of the parking lot there is a small booth and a woman sitting there collecting the money for the party and i was approaching that booth and i was looking at here this woman an elderly woman sitting there knitting with a smile on her face and i was thinking well this woman is is doing it that's it this is devotion you know she's sitting there thinking about her grandchildren knitting socks or whatever with love and that's it you know when when your head is empty of worries and your heart is full of love and your hands are full of love and your hands are busy doing something with that love that's it don't bother about your worries what you put your attention on that grows don't bother about your worries you focus on your love that will grow that will blossom look for opportunities to share that love find somebody that needs help do seva no service i'm here for you what can i do for you focus on your love that will expand you don't need to kill the darkness just add a little light darkness will go away you see the difference darkness doesn't stick you just need a little a little light and it will disappear add that light to your life vicky says i had many challenges after the breakup with my ex-boyfriend but i know i now understand it was for the best so now with these new life circumstances find other pathways to let your love flow outwards even if there is no partner in your immediate vicinity to pull that love on find other opportunities so many people are thirsty are thirsty out there find ways find situations that you can share that love share that light chad says i'm i have to drive to edmonton for a safety exam next weekend probably just going to drive there and back any suggestions for something worthwhile or calming to do up there up here you can have a walk in the river valley it's a beautiful walk you are welcome to come and have tea if you want join us live on insight timer yeah marcy says i have so much love for my rescue dog family and friends which adds to my worry i love what you say so marcy is talking about when you care a lot then i think this is what marcy is getting at when when there's a lot of care and attention on something then you worry more about things because you're more invested in that so that's why the example of your children or your partner partner your parents or your family or your dogs and cats and pets love and fear usually walk hand in hand the invitation that you hear here is not to mix the two keep your heart open the fact that you are invested is excellent but make sure you don't build a new crutch to lean on you cannot dance freely in this life when you are on crutches you you you know take care of your garden you plant a rose in your garden and you take care of that rose you know there is a personal aspect to it of the love you know so you water and the rose and you pick up the weed that is growing around the rose so it will be comfortable but it's not because you hate the weed you know it's because you love the rose it's okay there's a personal aspect to your love but don't worry about don't get entangled with attachment love doesn't come from the rose it's come coming from you you are the source the rose is just an object for you to express that to let that love flow or your partner or your children the love comes from within realize that wake up you are that source you are love all the opportunities you receive from life is to express your love so express it don't entangle with it create a dependency without you i will be lost i will be without love no you are the love you don't need anybody else you are the source okay you are the source the fountain cannot be thirsty it just needs to wake up and realize oh i am i am the source how can i be thirsty and then let that love flow unconditionally without any attachments everything is temporary every relationship you have is temporary with objects with people with people temporary and ever-changing don't create a false sense of stability through your relationships that's a sure way to life full of misery disappointment realize the only thing that is not temporary is you you are eternal wake up to realize that so you have to go like to thank you for being here sharing this hour with us thank you for your beautiful questions and your insights and your donations you're welcome to join us on tuesdays my more private settings if you're interested touch base with me and i will we will see you all next saturday right yeah have a great weekend