Can God Make Mistakes...?

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Today, we will discuss various issues, such as: What is a mistake? Can Good create mistakes? Why do you choose to stay on the throne of a victim? Should a spiritual teacher poke you? Dealing with past events and the stories you keep telling yourself, etc. Come with an open heart and a willing soul.

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So,

Hello,

Dear people,

Welcome to this unique opportunity we give ourselves to stop the rush,

Hold hands,

And walk the path together,

Not just as individuals,

But also as a united consciousness that is asking and answering and evolving in this dance.

So,

Is there anybody here that is here for the first time?

For we are all veterans.

I see a few familiar people.

If we are all veterans,

We can jump into the water and dive deep today,

Using your questions that are now representing a more mature consciousness.

So,

Don't be shy,

That's your opportunity to shine,

Shy and shine,

Very close.

So,

Who wants to be the first one to jump into the water?

Carly here is also eager to teach today,

So you can refer your questions to her.

I did think of a question,

But now I forget it.

John.

John's asking,

Sometimes we know exactly what is good for us,

Yet we choose to not do it.

And the question is,

I'm much more effective when attending a question,

Why?

Now it's a walk.

Back.

So,

There's a whole talk about this specific question,

And the title of the talk is,

Why?

So look for it,

It's on my Insight Timer page.

An whole hour dedicated to this specific question.

I'm not going to repeat everything that was already said,

But if you ask me how to know what is good for you,

What is the right thing to do,

The right choice to choose,

It's always what you would have chosen if there was no fear guiding your choice.

And then you know where to go,

You know what to do,

You know what to choose.

At least you know now.

You don't always have the courage to go there.

Sometimes fear is overwhelming and you're paralyzed because of fear.

Sometimes it's because of habit.

You just are not motivated enough to leave your comfort zone.

Sometimes there could be outside influences that pin you to the ground and doesn't allow you to move in the direction that you know is right for you.

So you're too much a football of other people's opinions.

There could be many reasons why you choose not to do what you know is the right thing to do for you.

The question why is not that important.

What is more important is that you know.

Why?

Because you've identified from all the alternatives the one that is not generated by fear.

You see what I'm saying?

So that is clear for you.

And if you don't go there,

Then have compassion,

Have patience.

Eventually you will go there.

There is no other way.

Might make a short detour.

But you will go there eventually.

If you're not ready to do it now,

Just have compassion and keep in mind that you already know that to be true for you.

Keep that option in mind.

Keep it.

Don't forget about it.

Don't let life distract you.

I know what I'm supposed to do.

I know what I'm supposed to choose.

I know what is the right thing for me to navigate my life towards.

And I will go there.

Maybe not today,

Maybe tomorrow.

But that's my heading anyways.

Have compassion.

I'm saying when you follow that resolution,

This is what I would have done if there was no fear guiding me.

Then you know,

Even though you are still afraid,

You know.

You don't have to stop being afraid in order to identify that alternative from all the rest.

It's like a simulation of enlightenment.

What is enlightenment?

It's a consciousness that is,

Amongst other things,

Grows beyond fear.

So you simulate that state.

For yourself,

For a minute.

What would I have done if there was no fear,

Only love?

Where would love flow?

Now you know.

Okay,

It flows to the left.

And if I don't have the courage to go to the left,

At least I keep that as the right option for me.

It's the most accurate,

The most harmonious option for me.

And I will dedicate my energy to gather that courage that I currently lack.

But I will eventually go there.

As soon as possible.

I think it's relevant here to also,

You know,

When it's not necessarily fear,

But maybe a version of that,

Or a subset of that,

Something like frustration or distraction or,

You know,

When you talk about knowing exactly what is good for us,

Yet we choose to not do it.

Because we're choosing the story or the drama or the whatever.

Something about making a choice to be free.

Or whatever choice you make,

That it doesn't actually matter what the choice is,

That you just surrender to it completely.

Yeah,

This is also an important comment that we've mentioned in various ways,

Many times.

If you're still stuck and unsure what to do,

Or maybe lack the courage to follow what you already know to be true for you.

Remind yourself that it doesn't really matter.

It's not,

The point is not to recognize of all the options what is the best option.

But the point is to surrender to one option and fully engage with it.

Yeah,

This is a very important reminder.

There's so much drama around,

You know,

Not to make a mistake,

To choose the right choice.

We had this discussion the other day.

What is a mistake?

We had a hard time defining the word mistake and its implications.

Yeah,

I mean,

For me,

Mistake is only when regarding to arithmetics.

Mathematical mistakes.

Only when your idea is contradicting facts that are undisputed.

For example,

I mean,

Again,

I don't want to become too philosophic about it,

But one plus one equals two.

At least this is our agreement until proven otherwise.

So if you calculate and you reach the answer three,

Then probably you made a mistake in your arithmetics.

But I can't think of any other example of a mistake.

So the point is,

It's not to avoid mistakes.

There are no mistakes.

You just choose something.

If you're not sure exactly what,

Choose something just by chance.

Flip a coin.

Flip a coin.

It's much more important that you choose and you surrender to your choice than to stay stuck on the stone in the middle of the river and keep debating about it while life passes you by.

Yes.

So what else?

We can learn from good and bad decisions.

Arguably,

We learn much more from bad decisions.

And you know already on the white path,

We don't use these terms anyways.

They are meaningless.

Don't divide life into good and bad.

Life is not good and it's not bad.

Life happens.

Your experiences are not good or bad.

Your choices are not good and bad.

Your decisions are not good and bad.

Don't worry about trying to figure out if it's good or bad.

Do we replace good and bad with?

Knowledge versus ignorance.

If you have to divide life into two,

Which is,

Of course,

Artificial,

That's the only criteria I could recommend.

Are you making your choice based on self-knowledge or out of ignorance?

For example,

When your choices are led by a sense of lack and need,

Always making sure you win more than you lose,

You gain more than you lose,

Then that's a sign of ignorance.

If you need to judge your decision-making process,

That's the criteria.

Am I basing my choices on self-knowledge?

Do I allow the realization of the nature of myself to manifest through my choices?

Or do I ignore them and only let my ego determine how do I move in life?

Let me ask you a question.

When you are confronted with this invitation to recognize that there are no mistakes in life,

How does it make you feel?

Do you accept?

Do you reject?

Do you have contradicting ideas about it?

Emotionally,

How does it make you feel?

Life cannot have any mistakes in it.

Free,

But sometimes confused.

Confused about what?

Contradictory thoughts.

Confused that mistakes I could have prevented.

Yeah,

But now I'm saying these were not mistakes to begin with.

This was your path in divine accuracy,

And there was no other way to walk it but the way it manifested.

That's my invitation.

How does it make you feel?

These were not mistakes.

The invitation here is to drop the idea that it was a mistake.

My feminine brain is going wild at this point.

Do explain.

Going through all the range of,

What if I had known better,

And now the guilt that comes up,

If that's the only way it can be,

Accepting that is so huge and all the things,

All the emotions at once.

Sarah says unlucky.

It makes you feel unlucky?

How come?

Because the chain of events that led you to where you are right now.

It's based on luck or on luck?

No,

You feel you have a better idea on how things should have unfolded.

Yes.

And your situation would be much more comfortable and rewarding today if they would have unfolded differently.

Right?

That's when you feel unlucky.

Sarah says,

Yes,

I have a better idea if I had not had so much trauma.

So,

God dealt an unlucky hand of cards.

So,

Look,

I'm going to say a few things.

Please take a deep breath and let me know even though they might seem a bit confrontational.

Michelle says it makes me feel I have no control over things I should.

Check out right down to the root of it.

Control?

Yeah.

So,

Look,

Guys,

A few things.

First of all,

Sarah is saying,

Yes,

I have a better idea about how things should have unfolded.

I guarantee these ideas is what makes you miserable today,

What positions you as a victim.

Trauma is not something that is happening to you.

Events are not traumatic.

It's not a thing.

Events cannot be traumatic.

And the proof that I can provide to prove this suggestion is that two people that experience exactly the same thing can come out of that experience with or without traumatic symptoms.

Correct?

Two people that are going through exactly the same experience,

One of them can experience PTSD and the other one,

No.

How come?

Because the trauma is not embedded in the event.

Trauma is me unwilling to fully experience the event as it happens in real time for various reasons.

Most of them are to do with lack of self-knowledge.

I don't know how big I am.

The event seems to me much bigger than I and it feels it will consume me.

It's way too much for me to experience with a whole heart and a willing soul.

So what happens,

I close down,

I shut down,

I run away,

Fight or flight,

Whatever tactics I use to avoid it.

This is trauma.

Me not being able to experience life when it happens.

This is the definition of trauma.

So A,

Events are not traumatic.

And stop blaming life for your misery.

You are not a victim of life.

Life never works against you.

It's not a matter of agreeing or disagreeing,

Sarah.

It's just a proposition.

That's why I'm saying,

Take a deep breath and let it sink in.

Even if you don't agree,

It doesn't matter.

Just let it sink in and stay there.

Otherwise,

What happens,

The bodyguard,

The bouncer at the entrance of the club is just throwing you out.

You won't be able to participate in the party.

The bouncer in this case is your intellect trying to figure out if this is something he could accept or no.

I have an issue with what you're saying.

Yeah.

I don't think the body or the psyche being unwilling.

I don't know that unwilling is the right word there.

So what would you use?

Unable.

This cannot happen.

Unable is based on the idea that it's beyond my means.

I can't.

And that's never the case.

That's a law of nature.

So just a minute.

If a present moment is happening,

And you are there to experience it,

It's because you can experience it.

With a whole heart and a willing soul.

And yes,

Sometimes life can be very difficult.

Sometimes it can be extremely painful.

I'm not ignoring that.

Yes,

Life can induce pain,

Terrible pain.

Is it too much?

Terrible illness,

Terrible violence,

The things that Sarah is stating.

Yeah.

Is it too much?

No,

It's not too much.

It's happening because you have the capacity to experience it.

Otherwise,

It wouldn't happen to you.

Or it wouldn't be suggested for you to experience.

So what you're suggesting is in the case of experiencing something very,

And I mean,

It can be any range of things,

But obviously we're talking about very serious things.

In the case of,

Say,

A child,

Ranging all the way up to an adult,

Obviously an adult has more self-awareness and self-knowledge.

A child may be in a different way or not so much of the same.

So yeah,

What's the word that we can use there?

Because unwilling,

Yes,

It puts the onus on the person to become aware and become more self-knowledgeable.

But for a child,

For example,

That's a developmental thing,

Right?

They're not at developmental stage to be able to become self-aware in that way.

They don't have the brain capacity for that at that moment in their life.

Yeah.

So our survival mechanism is overriding at that point and creates some kind of a scrow.

It reprograms us to react in a certain way to a certain situation,

To make sure that we are safe enough to survive.

Our responsibility as adults is to recognize those patterns,

Recognize those triggers that may be inevitable when it happened to us as kids.

But now we do have the resources to go back and heal that scar.

I'm not saying that the scar will disappear because,

You know,

Scar sometimes just stays on your body.

That's it.

It's a part of who you are.

I'm saying carry those scars proudly.

We are all scarred one way or another.

In that sense,

You are not unique.

Some scars are very visible,

Some are hidden.

Some use really good techniques of,

You know,

Pudra to make sure nobody sees that.

And others are inevitably visible.

That's not a problem.

It's not a mistake.

You know,

Life touched you and it was painful.

Yes.

And you can now recognize who you are.

Forgive your younger version.

Stop victimizing yourself,

Blaming life for the hand it dealt.

Yeah,

Bad events or whatever,

Difficult events that you once experienced,

Which are currently the cause of your misery.

No.

That's never the case.

The cause of misery is not past events,

But you rejecting them today.

You holding on to the beliefs,

The belief that it was a mistake that should never happen,

Not to you.

That's the cause of misery.

And you're old enough and strong enough to take responsibility in that sense.

Question is,

Are you ready?

Are you ready to take that responsibility?

Step off the holy chair of the victim.

And embrace life again.

What else?

Okay,

So Sarah is saying it takes an unknown period of time to heal.

It's a loss of lifetime.

This is how long it takes.

Let me ask you a question.

How long does it take to let go of an idea?

How long does it take to let go of an idea?

To give up a position you have about life.

How long does it take?

Yeah,

It's up to you.

Do you see?

You can hold on to that belief and it will be the story of life.

It will be a matter of a lifetime.

Yes,

But it's you holding on.

It's you choosing that position again and again and again.

It's you building an identity around it.

Life is waiting for you.

So let me propose something.

Yes.

That sometimes is a little bit hard for human beings to wrap their heads around.

What you're saying can be simultaneously true along with what Sarah is saying.

Where there's,

And actually you already said,

That there is scarring and change in the brain.

And that the way that our genes are expressed through these experiences changes us.

Right?

It's through which we grow and evolve through these experiences that we've had.

There are actual physical changes in the brain,

Especially the earlier on in your life that you're exposed to these traumas,

These events that are traumatic.

Yeah,

However you say it,

I don't know,

Whatever.

So the idea that things can be simultaneously happening is hard for us to understand because typically we want to sort of choose a side.

But when we bring ourselves to see the big picture,

You see everything.

And however you want to see that on a spectrum or a spiral or however your brain works,

To be able to absorb that,

That both of these things can exist simultaneously.

So it can both take that fast and a lifetime.

And yes,

It does depend on how you want to look at it and how and what kind of ideas about it that you want to let go and surrender to.

Well,

Also recognizing that these are,

You know,

I can't,

If I want to change the physical abilities of my body,

I'm not going to turn around like that and become a,

You know,

World Olympic gymnast,

You know,

Or something like that.

That kind of thing is not possible.

We would agree,

In fact,

Just like we agree that one plus one is two,

That not everybody can do everything at any time in the physical realm.

No,

But I'm saying that the statement,

It would take a lot of work and a long time,

That statement ensures that it will take a lot of work and a long time,

Because that's the story you tell yourself.

All possibilities are there for you to experience.

Sarah,

Please understand this.

We are talking about exact same thing.

You know,

What is the definition of a victim?

Someone that life wronged him.

And now he's damaged goods.

Why?

Because life wronged him in a way.

As long as you hold on to that belief,

That's it,

You're nailed to the ground.

One has to accept terrible events.

Yes,

That's exactly what we're saying.

One has to accept and then love the fact that life touched him in that terrible way.

Let go of the idea that it was a mistake that should never have happened.

That's exactly what we're saying.

Just using different words.

You're saying there are lots of people who are damaged.

I say only 100% of us.

There is no one person on this planet who is not damaged.

But what does it mean damaged?

Of course,

We are here in a body to allow life to touch us.

And that friction can be very painful.

It can be also very pleasurable.

But that's the reason we have the bodies.

So life can touch us and shape us and eventually kill us.

This body is not going to carry these scars to the next life.

No,

That's it.

That's a part of us experiencing life.

Show me the pleasure.

Come on.

Seriously.

All around you.

Go outside,

Pick a flower and smell it.

Listen to the wind blow.

Watch the birds fly.

There is so much magic in the air.

So much magic in you.

Your body is such an amazing machine that you live in.

This amazing present that you received from Mother Earth.

That is so unique,

So magical,

Divine in matter,

Divinity in matter.

You received as a present for this short amount of time.

This is such an incredible thing.

The chance,

I've heard a mathematician that calculated,

What is the chance that you would be born and have a body?

It's one in endless,

More than there are stars in the sky.

It's like the chance that you will not be here in a body is much,

Much,

Much,

Much,

Much greater.

But you still have here a body that is eating and breathing and experiencing,

Has five senses.

Wow.

That's incredible.

Not everybody has all five senses.

Four is enough.

Three.

Three,

Whatever.

Only had three.

You are here alive,

Breathing.

Appreciated.

That's the whole point.

As long as you believe that whatever is happening here right now is not good enough,

That's your ticket to misery.

Blaming situations.

Do you see that?

When will I be happy?

When I have,

I live in a different situation.

Or I have a different body.

Or younger,

Or more beautiful,

Or more money,

Or a different wife.

Et cetera,

Et cetera.

Okay,

You're stuck.

Do you see that?

This is victimizing.

Believing this,

My reality should have been different.

I can't be happy in this reality.

Because of A,

B,

And C.

Okay,

So I guarantee you won't.

Why?

Because that's the story you tell yourself.

And there's no one and nothing that can change that.

Even if,

What's his name?

Richard Gere will come riding on his white horse,

Knocking on your door,

And carry you to the sunset.

I think you're dating yourself with your white horse hero here.

This,

I don't know if there's anybody more recent.

Many.

Choose one.

I guarantee this is an illusion.

Even if he comes knocking,

It's not sustainable.

That's not the key to happiness.

I am here by the bay watching now.

Wow,

Good.

There's your family.

Take a deep breath.

Take a deep breath.

Appreciate that breath.

Remind yourself,

I only have,

I don't know how many,

10,

20,

30 more years.

That's it.

How do I want to spend that very short window of time?

Keep complaining about the circumstances,

Persuading myself that I'm a victim of life.

So I'm curious about the Sarah's comment.

I find it offensive to be labeled as a person who thinks of themselves as a victim.

I told you what I'm going to say is going to challenge you.

And I'm curious what.

.

.

Sarah,

Sarah,

Sarah,

I feel loss.

You're writing,

I feel loss.

That's so beautiful.

Now we are connecting to the pain.

Allow that.

Feel loss.

That's a huge step forward.

Feel vulnerable.

You're not alone.

We are here for you.

You can rely on us.

The whole company of people here are embracing you now virtually.

You're not alone.

And do come back every week,

Twice a week we meet.

Yeah,

And walk on the path.

Remind yourself again and again what is most important for you.

And if you keep forgetting,

We'll keep reminding you.

So,

As I was saying,

Before I was rudely interrupted,

I find it really important that Sarah is saying I find it offensive to be labeled as a person who thinks of themselves as a victim.

But then in the next sentence says one has to accept terrible events to go forward.

So what's the difference between staying in that victim position versus accepting terrible events and moving forward?

One is against life.

One is pro-life.

And can those be events that are happening simultaneously?

It's probably in most cases a gradual thing,

Right?

You slowly let go of the position of a victim and learning to embrace more and more what is happening right now.

But does it have to take a long time?

And is it really far away from me?

No.

How long does it take to let go of a thought,

Of an idea,

To drop an idea?

How long?

Experiencing life is not about maintaining ideas about life.

Opening your heart has got nothing to do with your intellect.

Do you see that?

Michel's offering one is empowering versus disempowering.

For sure.

Against life versus pro-life.

So again,

You can have both physical,

Mental,

Emotional damage,

According to you,

100% of people.

Do you know anybody who is not touched by life in that sense?

Definitely not.

Okay.

Not questioning you.

Okay.

And also be stuck in or believe in so deeply their story.

Yeah,

So that's why we are on the path.

That's why a path is created,

To help you remember again and again.

Because you have the tendency to forget.

So the path is there to help you.

Ah,

No,

No,

No,

No,

No.

This is what I want.

This is what I want.

I want to remain with a whole heart and a willing soul.

That's the most important thing.

More important than any position I have,

Any idea,

Any opinion,

Any story that I keep telling myself.

What is more important?

To stay open and soft.

Embrace and love unconditionally.

That's it.

And when I forget,

I come back to the path.

The path will help me to remember.

Mm-hmm.

Okay,

I think Sarah's coming down to it.

It's not just an idea.

It's a psychological damage,

A physiological damage.

So a brain injury.

So this is my point.

What's the difference between this idea that we have,

Our story that we tell ourselves,

And the actual event that led to injury?

Or the scar,

Or whatever we want to term that piece of it.

As long as you can identify the difference between noise and silence,

There is still hope for you.

We are all injured by life.

Some physically,

Some emotionally,

Some mentally.

I would argue it's all of those all the time.

All the time.

You cannot separate those things from each other.

Good.

We are all injured.

But at any given time,

With one leg,

With no legs,

With one eye,

With no eyes,

With half a brain,

We can identify the difference between noise and silence.

And now the question is,

Do we choose the noise or do we choose silence?

Do we choose the drama or sanity?

Do we choose our ideas about life,

About what life should have been?

Or do we choose life,

The present moment,

Not our ideas about it?

If you can recognize the difference between noise and silence,

There is hope for you.

Then ask yourself,

What is more important to you?

If you believe it takes time to accept life,

I guarantee it will take time.

100%.

It could take a lifetime.

Why?

Because that's what you believe.

That's the story you tell yourself.

So,

Okay,

That is what's going to manifest for you.

Life has no option but to adjust itself according to your story.

You are the generator of that reality.

You create it.

Why?

That's the story you tell yourself.

Ask yourself,

What would you be without that belief,

Without that story,

That it would take time?

Imagine yourself free from that position.

It takes time,

A lot of time.

You see,

It's just a mental state,

Just a story.

Life happens with no stories.

These are all embedded at the eyes of the beholder.

Consciousness,

When it's truly free,

Allows all possibilities,

Includes every possibility.

It doesn't limit itself to one dogma,

One story.

It's this way or that.

That's it.

What else?

I like to think of myself as rounding out what you say,

Smoothing the edges,

Maybe.

Yeah,

That's what you're here for.

And I think sometimes what you say is not judgmental,

But I think it's taken that way sometimes.

And so I like to think of if it takes a lifetime,

If it takes time,

If it can or it can't or it does or it doesn't,

That this is all the experience.

So when you see,

When you're able to see and zoom out into that big picture,

Then everything you're saying falls into place and speaks to the heart.

Yeah.

So if it takes time,

Then love that process.

Don't reject it.

Don't believe that happiness waits at the end of the rainbow.

That you are now climbing.

Tone of voice.

Tone of voice and cadence are important.

What is cadence?

Like the rhythm that you speak in.

I apologize if my intuition is too Israeli sometimes.

No,

You gave a warning that this is going to sound confrontational.

What I find interesting is being aware of and examining how you take that.

You know,

Do you go into defense mode and just being aware of that?

Oh,

Look at what I'm doing now.

I'm getting defensive at what he's saying.

I'm taking it this way.

I'm taking it that way.

I'm building a story around it.

Realize I have only one purpose.

And that is to invite you to enter that hole of an open heart and a willing soul.

That's the only purpose I have.

To enter that hole.

To remind you that the doors are open.

For you to enter any time.

You can stand in front of the door persuading yourself that it will take a long time.

Okay,

That's your choice.

But I'm here to say here are the doors and you're most welcome.

Just make a step forward.

One step.

So Sarah is signing off because they're at a protest to protest the events at Kashmir.

Thank you very much for your time.

For your.

.

.

Just a minute.

Sorry.

Uh,

I was gonna say something and now I forget as usual.

I think that,

So Michelle points out that that's being triggered.

And a lot of times when we are triggered and put up our defenses,

We're used to whatever we're being confronted by not having that open heart and open door,

Unconditional loving reaction.

We're not used to being confronted by somebody who has that openness to them.

So if you challenge Yaron,

He will stay open.

If you challenge me,

I will stay open.

And of course we're human beings.

But this is,

This is the path that we're on.

This is,

This is why we constantly reinforce that everybody is welcome and that this is a safe,

Safe space for you.

But it's not something we're used to encountering all the time.

I encourage you to keep coming,

Keep doing the work.

You know,

Keep devoting your energy to what is the most important thing for you.

And if you tend to forget,

Come back,

We'll remind you.

Okay.

So I'm happy that some of you were triggered today.

It means that something is moving,

Especially with nothing to do with you.

There's a huge chill that needs to be,

You know,

Penetrated.

So I love you very much guys for your honesty and your courage.

And we're going to meet again this coming Thursday to keep our series of talks about graceful relationships.

So do come and enjoy what's left from the weekend.

Love you very much.

Bye-bye.