Being Right Is A Masculine Program We Can Unfold

Being right. Wow. What a deeply rooted block. This is something that so many of you have been bringing up lately. I often see these the most when I'm working with couples who are awakening. They are seeing the differences in their paths, trying to awaken within the mind they are trying to awaken from. Today we discussed the masculine programming of being right and how it affects our ability to heal and transform.

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Being right is a masculine program we can unfold.

I was standing on a Himalayan hillside,

Smiling at the night sky,

Feeling pretty proud of myself after I'd just eloquently explained all 12 dimensions of the universe to a very wise alchemist.

Then came the magic words,

The bomb to the masculine mind.

He said,

You are right.

And then he paused.

Well,

But there are only really three.

The rest we created.

There was the void,

Then two of us,

And then we created this place.

That is all that is.

The rest of the dimensions were our own creations.

So what can we ever know?

We only see what we can understand from the perspective we are in.

Therefore,

You can never be right.

You can only talk about what you see from where you are standing.

My smile faded a little,

Turning into a mischievous smirk.

He loved how easily I could let go of what I was just so passionate about.

He gazed over the valley.

So learn to kill your thoughts.

He spoke with this kind but godly tone.

What?

I just stopped.

Feeling the guts of what I thought I knew hit the floor.

Okay,

Just breathe.

Listen,

Learn to kill my thoughts?

And that's when he just erupted with this giant smile.

His tone was still godly,

But now he was playful again.

You see,

Yesterday you understood all 12 dimensions.

Now you see there are only three.

You know nothing.

Learn to kill your thoughts.

You think tonight we had this incredible conversation,

But I will kill it in my mind.

When I lie down,

I will let our memory drift away.

Three months ago,

Maybe a few years ago,

Poof,

It's gone.

And I sleep in peace because I know nothing.

If you know nothing when you go to sleep,

When you wake up,

You are ready to learn everything.

So what is this illusion of knowing,

Being right?

One thing that became crystal clear on this spiritual journey through the dark nights of the soul,

I thought I knew these spiritual concepts.

But intellectual understanding wasn't going to cut it here.

I needed to become it.

I needed to learn or become something new.

We have to learn that being right is pointless.

It serves nothing.

And it's blocking us from learning anything.

So why are we all so stuck trying to be right all the time?

Being right is a program in the Wounded Masculine.

And I believe that many of us are ready to finally have some accountability for it.

Life is just a bunch of unique perspectives engaging in a shared experience.

If you see blue and your partner sees yellow,

That's your lens.

So instead of demanding the world sees your perspective,

Realize that in the middle of you two,

There is this green space that you're creating together.

That is the only truth.

The shared experience between us,

The co-creation of all of these perspectives into the now.

And that space is fluid.

If we are always changing,

Then why are we so stuck in a rigid mental structure of trying to be right,

Of trying not to change,

Trying to define?

We're using that system to try to understand.

We are locked in the system of the mind.

That mind is the mind of separation,

Rooted in fear.

Its keys are lack,

Limitation,

And comparison.

I don't have enough.

I'm not good enough.

Let me see how well they're doing.

Study those keys.

They reveal this mind because they show you the opposing system to the heart.

Yes,

You have two minds.

Three,

Actually.

But right now,

Humanity is boldly stepping onto the path from head to heart.

And that is not a Hallmark card of sentiment.

That is your heart center.

That is the kingdom.

As above,

So below.

Well,

The heart is the intersection.

Your earth and your soul.

Your ego and your heart.

Opposing systems.

And we've all learned to live in this rational mind.

And we created a society that no longer uses its powerful sensory system to understand.

We are stuck in an old patriarchal program of rational warfare.

And why?

Because like many of you,

If I was wrong around my Italian father or boss,

Their ego would stand tall and true and punish me for being less than,

For being wrong.

So as little boys,

We learned,

Always be right,

No matter what.

Then our minds run wild with rational explanations,

Creating an arsenal of facts to prove our points.

Those are not the tactics of love,

Of who we really are.

Those are tactics of war.

And when we see this,

We blame ourselves.

I see it and sit with men all over the world who are in this deep mental civil war,

Buried in wounds trying to dig themselves out.

They even go as far as telling me how nothing matters.

None of this is real.

Nothing can be known.

But that they know that as a fact.

But I don't see fools.

I see brave souls trying to escape the mind's prison.

But more often than not,

They don't know where they're going.

It's a snake eating its own tail,

A mind analyzing itself.

It has no way out.

Well,

Jesus was quite clear.

Forgive them for they know not what they do.

Now say that in modern speak.

Bring that powerful message into the now with playful,

Loving energy from the heavens.

Seriously,

We have no idea what we're doing.

We're asleep.

That's okay.

We are forgiven.

This is what we're doing here.

We find freedom there.

We literally don't have a clue.

Any healer right now who is in a state of Siva,

The true sense of that selfless service,

Will repeat this quite often because we've been so humbled along the way.

We learned what the entire system of the egoic mind was so we could identify it and learn to work with it because we understood it's driving us crazy.

It's wrong all the time.

It's in a constant state of humility.

Just saying,

I don't know,

Is the freedom we're all looking for.

It's so simple,

Yet so crucial to our awakening into soul.

We are forgiven for everything because we actually don't know.

We don't know.

I don't know.

I don't know.

And there it is,

Those three words,

A gift from the ancient ancestors.

Blame and guilt aren't really yours.

That's of the mind.

We're moving away from the mind of structure in the masculine so we can address it and heal it.

And we're moving into the heart-mind that connects to the soul,

Bringing our own heaven down to this earth to let it pour out from our cup.

So the greatest key to your awakening in this current state of our collective consciousness is realizing that being right is pointless because we're heading into the era of the feminine to embrace chaos because chaos is only scary in the mind of fear,

The ego.

Chaos in the heart turns into unlimited possibilities.

It's a paradigm shift.

This isn't about being right.

This is about learning to trust that there is a universe filled with love that is always interacting with you,

That you can let go and learn to have a relationship with the energy and the magic around you.

We all got stuck in massive states of control because we all felt alone,

Disconnected,

Removed somehow.

And here we are,

Walking into the era of connection,

That thing we are all looking for.

So for today,

Let go of being right.

Listen to the masters.

Learn to kill your thoughts.

Free yourself from yesterday.

Free yourself from what was.

Notice the wounded narratives you say so easily to yourself.

This is the time to let it go,

To detach.

And really,

For this work,

You need a gentle place to unfold,

To do this.

I've seen so many humans struggling through this.

And one thing always comes through.

We need a gentle place to unfold.

America and the West are embedded in old patriarchal structures,

Which is like sitting in an intense rainstorm of chaotic,

Fear-based energy at all times.

I mean,

As a man,

I went to the middle of the Amazon jungle and sat with Ayahuasca as she ripped me apart.

The me I was.

The me that was right.

The me that knew.

I would say that the struggle in the masculine to detach from this masculine structure of control is a bit easier when you see that ego has melted itself into our own divine masculine and robbed us of our ability to love openly.

So let's be wrong so we can finally unfold this mind and reconnect to the whole of who we are.

You don't have to be right about anything.

You just have to be transparent with the deeper parts of who you really are.

We are all doing this together.

There is no hierarchy here.

So let us be humbled as we walk into things our ancestors could not face,

Our own shadows,

Our own blocks,

Our own wounded narratives.

Let's be wrong so we can finally live the authentic life we've always wanted to feel.

We don't think our way through this.

We feel it.

That is the secret to it all.

Give your mind a break.

Open the heart and let that take the lead for a while.

Just follow your curiosity and inspiration.

That is your heart,

Mind,

Taking the wheel.

Just listen.

Exhale and listen.

You know,

Today I know of 15 dimensions instead of 12.

So I know so much more than I did.

Yet I still know nothing because I have no idea what I will learn tomorrow or from this conversation.

To learn,

We have to listen.

And being right blocks that path.

So what's the difference here?

The difference between knowing and being right?

It's the why.

Before,

I wanted to be right because that was the only way I knew how to challenge the world.

Driven by a deeply rooted system in the alpha of needing to be seen.

Now I don't need to be right because I feel love driving what I do.

Not deeply ignored wounds.

I can talk about everything I have learned as much as I want as long as it feels authentic to me.

To the deeper parts of who really drives this machine,

This experience.

With an openness to being wrong,

Just suddenly we are free of judgment.

My thoughts have transformed from me to we.

I think in we.

So even the frequencies of my actual words have changed.

I can hold keys of wisdom and seem right about some pretty wild things.

But I'm not trying to be right.

I'm not attached to being right.

And I am wrong all the time.

That is why people hear me.

Being vulnerable is the superpower and being honest is the key.

To be honest is to be flawed.

To be wrong.

To be human.

When you speak from heart to heart and you're doing your best to avoid the head in its entirety,

It's there you find a pure connection.

There's no rational thought here.

Just curiosity and playful passion.

So as we all unfold these older patriarchal patterns,

We also find little programs along the way that we can detach as long as we just become aware of it.

Like for men,

We'll find that we also have a program of trying to fix it.

And we've heard a lot of women say,

I hate that.

Stop trying to fix it.

Because that is still buried in our egoic mind that has replaced emotional engagement with rational sympathy.

We want to fix it because we forgot how to feel it and how to heal it.

So letting go of who we think we are is a path back to who we really are.

To be fluid in what you think so you can become fluid in how you express and allow yourself to feel.

Release the limitations of the mind of limitation.

And you find this boundless soul who just wants to play.

I mean,

We are in this great awakening.

It's real and it's happening.

It's the most incredible transformation in our human civilization.

It's the moment we all switch from head to heart.

An awareness of our flaws and openness to our wounds and a complete release of our need to control our lives to feel safe.

To feel safe.

Well,

There it is.

To be right is to be safe.

Our mind of fear is trying to be right to stay in control because it's afraid of its shadows,

The moon,

The other half of who we are.

Well,

Yeah.

For that,

We need the feminine to show us the way through.

And yes,

Right now we might be currently buried in some pretty heavy shadows,

Aware or not.

But we are all going through this right now.

Learning how to leave the rational mind.

A mind that was never meant to do this alone.

A mind that always needed the heart.

Your heart mind does not judge.

Not just others.

Your heart mind does not judge yourself.

Where your rational mind sees narratives,

Your heart sees miracles of bravery.

Where you compare,

Your heart sees the beauty of our differences.

Where you fight,

The heart heals.

And where you are wrong,

The heart sings.

We're not trying to be right because we're trying to remember how to live from love.

That thing,

That one single thing we've always wanted.

And that thing we all deserve.

So,

For our ancestors and our shared past,

We step into this new era.

The era of the heart.

The path away from the mind and back into our souls.

Well,

Let's be wrong so we can live as one.

It's time.

So,

In case we forget,

Love is why we're here.