My name is Sangeet and today I am here to tell you something.
We humans have the tendency to label everything,
Including people.
We arrive in this planet and right away we are told this is your mother,
Your father,
These are your uncles,
Friends,
And neighbors.
And throughout life we continue labeling everything and everybody.
And sometimes,
Here and there,
And for some reason,
We wonder if the mother,
The father,
Or the friend is truly deserving of our time and investment.
But because we keep calling them mother,
Father,
And friend,
We push away whatever it is that we feel deep inside.
And we cover it with those beautiful labels that,
On their own,
Already say so much,
Already push us into believing that we have some sort of obligation,
That we should be nothing but grateful,
And maybe that we even owe them something.
Then one day,
In one of those moments of doubt,
We ask the same question again.
Is this person truly worthy of my time and investment?
And if this time we really want to answer this question,
One of the easiest ways is to remove the labels attached.
No mother,
No friend,
No wife,
No colleague,
Or anything that could distract us from seeing who they really are,
From feeling their energy,
And from knowing their real influence in our life.
By deleting labels,
Our whole perspective changes.
Would we still want to interact with them in the same exact way if they were not our mother,
Our husband,
Or our friend?
Would we still want to be around?
This is not a question for convenience,
As when someone argues with another person,
And it feels convenient to discard their label,
So we can also discard them whenever we want,
Or a way to justify our bad actions and real selfishness,
So we can get away with hurting people.
This is none of that.
This is for all of those toxic connections that leave us deeply exhausted,
Depleted,
Depressed,
Traumatized,
And hurt,
Not knowing what to do with them,
Because,
After all,
They are the father,
The husband,
Or the friend.
This is for when we doubt and doubt,
And continue doubting of a relationship that we know that is not good for us,
That we know that is unhealthy,
And yet we stay and allow,
Because their label plays such an important role in the picture.
And many times,
Their label comes with so much more,
That in order to leave them behind,
We have to go through difficult arguments,
Or we have to get divorced,
Or we have to pack our bags to leave the house,
The car,
The job,
Or we have to become an orphan,
Or we have to have no friends,
No partner,
No neighbors,
Or we have to become poor,
Or even homeless.
Sometimes,
Toxic relationships are all that we know and that we have,
In such a way,
That in order to leave that behind,
We have to erase our entire life,
And start all over.
If this is our reality,
It is okay,
It happens,
And it is totally understandable.
We are all humans,
And we are all susceptible of having all sorts of experiences,
Despite our unique and extraordinary qualities and abilities.
And if toxic connections is a big factor in our life,
That keeps us feeling ill and unsafe,
The first thing that we do is to have compassion towards us,
So we can create space for self-introspection,
To make choices and decisions,
To take new actions,
And to move on.
And during this process,
We apply this mental tool of removing any labels,
So we can reduce confusions and distractions,
And use our discernment.
So today,
Yes,
Let's reflect on our relationships,
But with no labels attached.
Let's feel and think as freely as we can,
So we can create a better life for ourselves.
And let's be okay with it,
Because,
After all,
We are all on this together,
And we don't seem to go anywhere until the very last moment.
Let's be gentle and appreciative of everything that we know and that we do.
