Baby Bonding For New Mothers

A calming meditation designed specifically for mothers of new babies, who have carried and birthed their babies.

This guided relaxation includes a body scan, and will take you through a beautiful garden in your mind.

It will reset your mind, providing an essential guide to help you relax when you have a few moments to yourself.

Transcript

Find a comfortable place to be and gently close your eyes.

Take three deep breaths.

Breathing in through your nose and out through your mouth.

One Two Three Your eyelids feel heavier and heavier like they do as you drift off to sleep.

Relaxing your body from the top of your head to the tip of your toes.

Feeling that relaxation growing more and more now.

Your body becoming deeply relaxed.

Your eyelids getting heavier and heavier and heavier.

You feel relaxed in every inch of your body.

Your mind is slowing down.

From the busy thoughts that we all encounter every day.

Becoming more and more like a smooth still pool of water.

Going deeper and deeper and deeper into reality.

Relaxation.

As you relax more and more and more deeply.

I'm going to count gently and calmly.

From five down to one.

And as I say these numbers you'll feel that relaxation growing more and more.

Getting deeper and deeper.

As you find yourself going into trance.

When I get to the number one you'll feel much more deeply relaxed.

You'll be extremely relaxed at peace with both a calm body and mind.

And in a very deeply tranquil state.

Five Four Three Two Deepening further into relaxation.

Feeling utterly at ease.

Totally at peace.

Relaxed in the entirety of your body.

Of your mind.

Completely and totally relaxed.

And you can continue to go even deeper into that relaxed state.

Continuing to go more deeply,

Very deeply,

Extremely deeply now.

Dropping further and further into a highly relaxed state.

As every second passes by.

And you'll feel that deep relaxation.

In a deeply relaxed state.

As every second passes by.

Now feeling fully and totally relaxed.

In a deeply relaxed state.

Extremely relaxed.

Now you find yourself fully immersed in relaxation.

Imagine yourself at the top of ten smooth stone steps.

Leading to a beautiful sunken garden.

In the distance,

You hear a trickle of water from a small stream.

It's pouring into the deep pool that forms at the centre of this gorgeously fragrant garden below.

Gorgeously fragrant garden below.

As you take gentle steps down towards this beautifully lush green garden.

You'll become more calm.

Feeling ten times more relaxed than you do now.

So I'm going to count backwards from ten to one now.

As you begin to step down on the smooth,

Wide,

Comfortable steps towards the garden.

One.

Feeling the relaxation radiating through your feet,

Toes and ankles.

Loosening the soles of your feet.

The muscles across the top of each foot.

And around each ankle.

Two.

The relaxation travels up through the muscles in the calf.

Into the knees.

And your lower legs begin to feel loose and limp.

Three.

You notice the comforting smell of lavender and other tender Mediterranean herbs as you go down.

And further down.

And further up.

And further up.

Four.

You now feel the relaxation moving up through your thighs.

Into your lower abdomen.

And your womb.

Like a warm blanket.

Enveloping them in relaxation.

Five.

You feel the relaxation moving up through your lower abdomen.

And further down.

Five.

Stepping down.

Down towards the pleasant natural sights of the garden below.

Hearing the birds of paradise gently chirping.

Letting your mind drift further and further into relaxation.

Six.

The gentle relaxation now takes over your upper body.

Your chest.

Your shoulders.

And you feel any tension that you're holding on to here.

Gently loosen and dissolve away.

Seven.

You are now so very near the bottom of the steps.

And the beauty,

Peace and stillness of this sunken garden.

You experience comfortable ease and complete calm.

And you feel this pleasant sensation getting deeper and deeper and even deeper now.

Eight.

The relaxation now enters your arms.

Elbows.

Forearms.

Hands and fingers.

They feel immensely relaxed.

Now fully at ease.

Nine.

Now gently turning your attention to your face and head.

Let the relaxation travel up through your chin.

Loosening your jaw.

Across your lips.

Along your nose.

Around the eyes.

And over the forehead.

Over the scalp.

And radiating down the back of your neck.

Releasing any tiny pieces of tension.

Releasing any tiny piece of tension still remaining.

Ten.

Your mind is fully quiet now.

Fully relaxed.

And feeling emptier and emptier of any thoughts or feelings that are not to do with full and complete relaxation.

You've now reached the paradise of the sunken garden.

With its beauty,

Comfort and stillness all here for you now.

Take in the green and luscious surroundings.

Let them soothe you.

And know that this is a place that you can visit anytime you feel like you need to.

Anytime you feel like you need peace and calmness in your life.

And now as you reflect on the past few weeks and months of your life.

And the miraculous journey of motherhood that you've been on.

Recognize that this time of bonding and getting to know your baby has been happening ever since you could first imagine them.

Before your baby was even born,

The bonding process began.

Every moment you spoke,

Sung or laughed.

Either to them or in response to the world around you.

Your baby could hear and recognize your voice.

And this happened from around 16 weeks of life in your safe and nurturing womb.

Imagine now a moment or time when he did just that.

When you spoke or sung to them.

And you were aware that your baby could hear everything you were saying.

They're getting used to your voice.

And knowing that your voice was a sign of being safe and secure.

It was crucially significant to their development in utero.

And then being able to talk when the right time comes.

Know now the simple truth that your voice is one of the marvelous ways in which you're bonded to your baby.

Without it,

You wouldn't be able to speak.

Without you having to do or be.

It just is.

Reflecting on these early days of motherhood.

Your baby responding to your voice.

Your love.

Your care.

Your attention.

And receiving their pure and beautiful smile as they look up at you.

How warm.

How grateful.

How fulfilling that this is to experience.

A simple smile is another sign of your deep and enduring bond.

Of the way your baby interacts and recognizes you as their safe haven.

Their beacon of love.

And their attentive,

Nurturing mother.

This comes naturally without any need for you to be a certain way or do a certain thing.

You trust this knowledge and hold the certainty that you are the perfect mother for your newborn baby.

Early motherhood is a chance to slow down the pace of life.

To take rests.

Nap.

And enjoy quality bonding time with your tiny loved one.

Now imagine a precious bonding moment with your baby.

This may already have happened.

Or it's a moment you wish to happen in the future.

You're resting on your bed or comfortable sofa or chair.

Cushioned by comfortable bedding,

Pillows or throws.

And you're holding your baby in your arms.

You may have just fed them.

You may be in the middle of feeding them.

And you feel the warmth.

The warmth between you of love,

Closeness and harmony.

You feel fulfilled in this moment.

There is nowhere else you would rather be.

No one else you'd rather be with.

And you feel the precious intimacy and beauty of these moments.

And you feel the warmth.

And you feel the precious intimacy and beauty of these moments.

As you cradle and comfort your baby in a loving and kind in kindly way.

Your baby may be looking up at you.

Focusing on feeding or gently dozing in your arms.

And you recognize this moment as one of purity.

As one of an initiation into your motherhood journey.

And you know you're doing a perfectly sound and secure job of mothering your tiny little bundle.

This is your mothering instinct at work.

And this is a moment that only you and your little one can share.

It's a precious,

Perfect moment.

And you know it's so important to your bonding experience.

And now these little moments begin to occur in your life more and more.

In these moments you're immersed in the intensely close and pure experience of bonding and caring for your baby.

And you recognize that your bond with your baby is growing each and every day.

You're a mother who is bonded to their baby in a natural and instinctive way.

You feel more and more confident in your ability as a mother as these bonding moments increase.

In the time you spend together.

And you feel more and more peaceful in your role as a new mother.

The best and most natural mother there could ever be to this beautiful baby of yours.

The recognition of this knowing simply fills your heart with love.

Enjoy and appreciate this inner knowing.

And also the recognition that you're more than enough for your baby and the bonded relationship that you share.

You are filled up with love and can provide the optimum level of care for your baby's well-being.

You are a mother who is a mother to her baby.

You are the most perfect mother for your baby just by being you.

You are what your baby needs.

Realize now that your nurturing loving care and the bonding moments you share with your baby are the basis for everything else to fall into place.

Feel this empowering realization.

Feel this empowering realization resonate through your whole being now as you take this forward into your everyday life and as you spend time bonding with your beautiful baby.

Repeat these affirmations.

I am fully present when sharing precious bonding moments with my baby.

I am fully present when sharing precious bonding moments with my baby.

I am more than enough and the best mother for my baby.

I am more than enough and the best mother for my baby.

I know that I possess the inner wisdom to provide my baby with the love they need.

I know that I possess the inner wisdom to provide my baby with the love they need.