In the next minutes,
We're going to talk about how to face problems.
Hello,
My name is Rodrigo.
I'm a social worker,
And I have a master's degree in mediation in gender violence and resolving conflicts.
For the past two years,
I've been working with families in crisis,
Helping them to find solutions to life's biggest problems.
Okay,
In the next five minutes,
We are going to talk about how to face problems.
We usually make a difference between like the small problems that we have in our common life and the really huge problems that we have to face it sometimes in life.
An example of a small problem probably is like my kids didn't do what I say or I don't know how to say to my boss that I don't feel comfortable.
An example of a big problem could be like depression,
Feeling like I can't go out of the bed,
All that kind of stuff,
All that kind of problems that we usually have that is harder to talk about.
So,
We usually divide in three steps.
First step,
Maybe sounds silly,
But it's to recognize that we have a problem.
It's fine,
Sometimes that could make us feel like we're weak.
An important thing that we have to know is how much is our implication in the problem.
Sometimes we can face all the problems.
Other times we have to know that we only can work with a little part of that.
An example of this can be,
For example,
That if I have problems with my wife,
I have to assume that I have part of the responsibility,
But she has her part of the responsibility.
So,
It's important to let the other part have his own responsibility in the conflict.
This takes us to the next step that I like to call the wheel of cheese.
What is this?
Imagine that you have to eat a wheel of cheese.
What do you do?
Do you bite it?
No,
You cut a slice.
It's the same that we have to do with the problems.
Sometimes the very big problems that we have in life,
We can't face them.
It's that simple.
So,
What we have to do is just to cut them in different slices than we can work with.
For example,
I have depression.
Okay,
Maybe you can't face the depression.
On your own.
But you can face,
For example,
What causes that depression.
I can't get out of bed.
It's okay.
Maybe you can work with that.
So,
Put that in the slice of the wheel of cheese.
And it's even better if you draw it because you can see how you are going to get better and better.
Thank you for listening to me today.
My main question for you is Do you live these situations of problems that you can handle?
Thank you so much and let me know in the comments.
