In this audio,
We're going to talk about the balance of time.
Time is so important for us.
We always are thinking about how to spend our time.
I usually see in the relationships that comes to us there being a lot of problems about time.
In the next minutes,
We're going to talk about time and the importance of this and how we can deal with it in the relationships.
Hello,
My name is Rodrigo.
I'm a social worker,
And I have a master's degree in mediation in gender violence and resolving conflicts.
For the past two years,
I've been working with families in crisis,
Helping them to find solutions to life's biggest problems.
First thing that we have to understand is that time is different in every single couple.
For example,
If you have kids,
It's not the same as if you are alone with your partner.
But time is important for the relationships.
When we talk about time,
What are we talking about?
We are talking about spending quality time for us.
That is so important for the relationships.
When I talk about this with my partner or at my work,
We usually say that every single person needs their own time,
And that is the most important thing that you have to understand.
We're not talking about that 20 minutes that you have during the grocery,
For example,
Or when you go to pick up your kids to school.
No,
We are talking about having our own independent time.
Read a book,
Do some exercise.
You can do whatever you need,
But it's so important to keep that space on mind.
You have to understand that your partner is going to need that time too.
For example,
If you have kids,
What you can do is just organize your time with your kids in different spaces.
For example,
Daddy is going to take the kids to the bathroom and prepare them dinner.
In that moment,
Mom can rest.
I'm not talking about doing anything of the house,
Cleaning,
Or whatever.
No,
No,
I'm just talking about rest,
Or read a book,
Or just forget about everything that the kids need.
Then,
For example,
Dad can go watch some TV,
Or do some exercise,
Or whatever he needs.
Have our own spaces in the day by day is great,
But we also need to do something else.
We need to find time for us as a couple.
No kids,
No worries about work.
We have to find our own space.
So,
Try to take that 10 minutes,
20 minutes every day.
This is a part for the time that you take for yourself to talk with your partner,
To just take her or him to dinner.
Spend some quality time that your relationship needs.
Do some trip.
Go have a shower together.
Do whatever you want,
But you have to be only with him or her,
Because when we start a relationship,
We usually forget about us.
We forget about the relationship when we spend more than one year being together.
It's different.
You can feel that everything changed,
And you get to the routine.
That routine is something that you have to understand that it's good in some moments,
But in other times,
You have to do something crazy,
Get wild,
Is what I mean.
You have to,
As a couple,
Take some trip,
Go to the mountains,
Have some hiking,
Or just drive in the car if you like it.
Do things together.
It's good.
And if you have kids,
Just take your kids with your parents and just have some time for yourself.
A pretty simple thing that we can do if we feel overwhelmed in our relationship,
Or we really don't know how to deal with the emotions in that moment,
Is little touches.
It's nothing sexual.
It's just touch your partner,
Take her hand,
Just some tickles around the arm.
Those things serve to calm you down and make a strong connection with your partnership.
Thank you for listening to me,
And put me in the comments how you spend the quality time with your couple.
So,
Thank you so much,
And adios.
