The Enoughness Wound

The enoughness wound lives in the body as the belief that love, safety, and belonging must be earned. It’s the voice that says: “Do more, give more, prove more — before you can rest.” In this spoken word reflection, I explore how this wound forms, how it shows up, and how staying with yourself — instead of abandoning yourself for proof — can begin to heal it. This is for anyone who’s ever asked, “Was I enough?” and is ready to hear, “You always were.”

Transcript

Most of us learned early that love was conditional,

That to keep it you had to earn it,

Perform it,

Prove it.

That's the enoughness wound.

It's the voice that lives in your body and whispers,

Do more,

Give more,

Be more,

Before you rest,

Before you breathe,

Before you're safe.

Maybe you know that voice,

The one that counts the ways you fell short,

The one that asks,

Was it enough?

Did I try enough?

Did I cry enough to be believed?

I know it well,

I've carried it my whole life,

And here's what I've learned,

The one who asked that question isn't your present day self,

It's your younger self,

The child who learned that love could be lost without warning,

The child who thought they had to smile when they were hurting,

The child who turned themselves inside out to be wanted,

The child who never knew what it was like to be stayed with.

They don't want your proof.

They want your presence.

They want you to stay when the grief feels messy and the silence feels awkward.

They want you to say,

Without rushing,

Without bargaining and without turning away,

I'm here.

You don't have to earn this anymore.

You don't have to prove it anymore.

You are enough,

Even now.

And every time you stay instead of abandon,

That's the proof.

Every time you choose presence over performance,

You're rewiring a lifetime.

You're teaching that child inside you what no one taught you,

That enoughness was never out there to be earned.

It was always here,

In you,

Waiting to be remembered.

Reviews

Raw and profound. Hard to hear and harder to live. But oh so necessary. Thank you 🙏

Did I cry enough to be believed😭 ... boy did that pierce my heart. Thank you for this beautiful affirmation and validation. Bless you. 🙏🏿

John!!!! This was so powerful to listen to. I totally live this. It is so amazing and resonated 100% Thank you for all you share. You have had such a huge impact on my healing journey 🩷💖

Thank you so much John for this and for all the energy healing live sits 🙏🏼🕯️✨

I really needed to hear this. Thank you so much 🙏🏽💖

Wow John! Thank you so very much for this deeply touching talk on feeling “enough”. I will have to come back to this one to let the words sink in even more. Take care, Peace ✌️

As I listened to this shared "enoughness wound" deliberation, the word poignancy came to mind. A chord of understanding was struck and images of childhood memories were evoked. Thank you 😌

This touched deeply. Thank you. A life changing experience. Deep gratitude for your understanding.

Wow… this resonated on the “smiling to hide the hurting” and other descriptors. What struck me this tune was that it wasn’t my parents so much as the teachers in my elementary school which had so much oversight of my days those early years. Other aspects at home yes but the realization at school and how zero trauma informed training the schools had then (no surprise). Thank you dear John 💜🩷💚🙏🏼

This theme has been visiting me all week, firstly in reminding someone else of their enoughness then dropping the ball of enoughness in my own game and finding John's gentle reminder that I Too, Am Always Enough. Perfect timing ♥

Thanks for this reminder! This happens all the time and I have to remember again and again
Love and blessings to you.

Hi,John just finished listening 🎶 to your track 🥰 thankyou this is what i needed to hear

John gently talks about the origins of The Enoughness Wound and how it appears in our life as never feeling Enough. John is soothing and healing with this powerful talk. I will listen to this talk when I need the reminder that my worthiness is not something to be earned. Thank you John for this clarity. Namaste

Wow so powerful! So heartfelt. Thank you John for sharing this. 🙏💞💫

Beautiful message and reminder. Thank you. Namaste.