How To Create The Future You Want

Ready to transform your life and make your dreams a reality? How to Create the Life You Want is your ultimate guide to designing a life of purpose, fulfillment, and success. This episode offers practical advice, powerful strategies, and inspiring stories to help you clarify your vision, set actionable goals, and take consistent steps toward the life you've always desired. From overcoming self-doubt to building empowering habits, this podcast will equip you with the tools and mindset shifts needed to break free from limitations and unlock your full potential. Tune in and start creating the life you truly deserve today!

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All right,

Let's dive into this.

Today we're talking about the kind of thing that when you really get it,

It clicks in such a big way that you start to look at everything differently.

Your goals,

Your struggles,

Even how you see yourself.

And what's amazing is we're not talking about some abstract,

Out-there idea.

This is all based on things you've already felt deep down,

But maybe haven't had the words to explain yet.

That changes today,

Right here.

So let me ask you this,

When was the last time you wanted something,

Really wanted it with every fiber of your being,

But you felt this little voice in the back of your head,

Whispering,

It's too far away,

It's not going to happen.

You know the one I'm talking about,

It's that voice that makes you hesitate,

That makes you think,

Maybe this isn't for me.

But what if that voice was completely wrong?

What if the key was never out there,

But already inside of you?

And what if I told you that everything you want,

Your dream job,

A healthier body,

More fulfilling relationships,

Already exists in the universe,

Right now.

You just need to know how to call it into your reality.

Would you believe me?

Now I'll admit that idea might sound a little out there.

Stick with me though,

Because what we're actually talking about today is grounded in how your mind and body work.

There's a science to this and once you learn how to tap into it,

The game changes.

So if you've ever felt like there's this gap between where you are right now and where you know you could be,

Keep listening.

We're going to bridge that gap today.

Let's start here.

Did you know that emotions are like the little gears behind the scenes running the show of your life?

Whatever emotions you're practicing the most,

Whether it's gratitude,

Stress,

Frustration or joy,

They don't just shape how you feel.

They shape how you think,

How you act and ultimately the results you create in your life.

Here's a wild story that might frame this for you.

Think about Michael Jordan.

Yeah,

That Michael Jordan.

He wasn't just physically talented,

That's part of the story,

Sure,

But it's not the whole thing.

Jordan was famous for visualizing entire games in his head before they even started.

He could feel the emotions of victory,

The adrenaline of every single play,

Before he even laced up his sneakers.

And guess what?

That wasn't just daydreaming.

Science now shows that when you feel an emotion deeply,

Your brain doesn't know whether it's real or imagined.

That's how powerful emotions are.

Jordan didn't just imagine winning,

He felt it.

He conditioned his mind and body emotionally to experience his victories before they ever materialized in the real world.

And then,

Boom,

It was like his brain said,

Oh this is who we are now,

Let's make it happen.

The crazy part,

You can do this too.

The process might look different,

You're not out on the court during game seven of the finals,

But the principle doesn't change.

You can reprogram yourself to embody the emotions and state of being that will bring your future into the present.

But here's the thing about emotions,

Most people don't spend their lives practicing gratitude or excitement about the future.

They practice something very different.

They practice stress,

And worry,

And fear.

Honestly,

It's not even their fault.

We live in a world that's wired for this.

Think about how many times you've opened your phone and immediately started absorbing negative news,

Drama,

Social media comparisons,

Whatever it is.

Before you've even had coffee,

Your brain's already in overdrive,

Running the same old loops of stress that it ran yesterday.

And here's the kicker,

Your body gets used to those loops.

Over time,

It even becomes addicted to them.

Yep,

You can literally become addicted to stress hormones like cortisol.

And what happens when you start your day like this?

You replay the same habits of thought,

The same emotional patterns,

Over and over.

You wake up,

Grab your phone,

See your emails or notifications,

And bam,

The hit of stress reminds you who you've been up until now.

It's like having your identity handed back to you on a platter.

Here's your past,

Here's your anxiety,

Here's your overwhelm.

And guess what?

When your thoughts and emotions stay rooted in the past,

Your future doesn't stand a chance.

You can't create anything new while living in the energy of yesterday.

It's why so many people say they want change,

But feel stuck.

They're waiting for the outside world to change first,

Waiting for the new job to feel confident,

Or the perfect partner to feel loved,

Or the big win to feel successful.

But it doesn't work that way.

Let's pause here for a second.

Think about how we've been told to approach life.

Work hard first,

Hustle non-stop,

Then you can relax and be happy.

But what if we've been flipping the formula upside down this whole time?

What if instead of waiting to feel joy or confidence or abundance until things change,

Out there,

You trained yourself to feel those things first.

Right here,

Right now,

No matter what's going on around you.

Here's another story for you,

And this one fires me up.

You've probably heard of Oprah Winfrey.

Of course you have.

She's Oprah.

But rewind the clock,

And Oprah was hustling,

Grinding,

Breaking through barrier after barrier.

So many of her early interviews,

She's talked about growing up with this unwavering belief that her future was going to be different.

She didn't just hope for it,

She didn't just visualize it,

She practiced feeling it.

As a young girl in Mississippi,

She'd speak words into the air like they were already true.

My life is abundant.

I'm a queen.

She wasn't waiting for someone to give her permission to feel powerful,

Or successful,

Or worthy.

She decided to feel it first.

That feeling became her anchor,

Her North Star.

Everything else aligned because she was already showing up emotionally as the version of herself who was ready to receive those things.

And that's a lesson for all of us.

When you practice feeling connected to your future,

When you embody it emotionally,

It's like telling the universe,

This is who I am.

Bring it to me.

But let's address the elephant in the room.

I know what you might be thinking.

Okay,

That sounds great,

But how do I actually do this?

How do I stop the stress loop and start practicing something different?

And listen,

I get it.

That's a big question.

But I have good news.

The how is simpler than you think.

Let's talk about gratitude.

I know,

I know,

Gratitude is one of those words that gets thrown around a lot these days.

But don't dismiss the power behind it.

Gratitude is so much more than saying thank you,

Or keeping a journal.

It's about feeling,

Really feeling,

Like your future is already here.

When you feel gratitude,

It's not about hoping something will happen someday.

It's about acknowledging that it already exists in the field of possibility.

Think of it like this.

Imagine your future.

It could be the ideal job you've been dreaming about.

Or maybe it's a vibrant,

Healthy version of you that you haven't met yet.

Or that dream relationship you've been waiting for.

Now instead of obsessing over the fact that it's not here yet,

Imagine what it would feel like if it was here.

What would change?

How would your energy shift?

Let me tell you what's happening when you do this.

Gratitude,

Scientifically speaking,

Is the ultimate state of receiving.

When you practice gratitude intentionally,

It's like telling your body,

We already have this.

It's done.

And your body and brain don't know the difference between something happening in your imagination and something happening in real life.

So when you tap into that gratitude,

You're training your entire system to behave like your future has already shown up.

And you don't have to take my word for it.

Science backs this up.

Did you know that your body literally releases chemicals like oxytocin,

Known as the love hormone,

When you're in a state of gratitude?

That's the same hormone that lights up when you're holding a baby or falling in love.

It rewires your brain's reward circuits,

Softens stress responses,

And literally makes you into the type of person who's emotionally ready to receive what you're asking for.

It's not magic,

It's biology.

But here's the thing.

Gratitude isn't a one-and-done deal.

It's a practice.

It's about consistency.

Because the truth is,

Your brain's been trained for years,

Maybe even decades,

To lean into fear,

Worry,

Stress.

All those survival emotions.

Flipping that pattern isn't an overnight process.

But the more you show up for it,

Even in small ways,

The easier it gets.

People who really lean into this can experience some pretty wild changes.

They rewire their relationships,

Their health,

Their mindsets.

And the best part,

It doesn't require huge life changes.

It starts with just learning how to sit with yourself,

Close your eyes,

And practice feeling grateful.

Not for the life you currently have,

But for the life you're creating.

Let's circle back.

A moment ago we were talking about that gap between where you are now and where you know you can be.

That gap,

It's not as big as you think.

Most of us have spent years trying to fix our circumstances first.

But what if that's not the path at all?

What if What if the real magic happens when you learn to match your feelings with the life you want,

Before it even shows up?

Let's break this down because I know it sounds a little counterintuitive.

The world tells us,

See it,

And then you'll believe it.

Right?

Prove it.

Show me the results.

But what if the opposite is actually true?

What if we have to believe it first,

And I mean really feel and embody it,

Before we can ever see it in our reality?

That's the kind of radical shift in thinking we're talking about here.

And it's not just me saying this.

There's a whole field of neuroscience and quantum physics that backs this up.

When you focus on thoughts,

Feelings,

And beliefs tied to your dream life,

Your brain starts building the connections to support it.

It's like rewiring yourself for that success before it arrives.

And that's how you step into alignment with the version of you who already has the reality you're craving.

Here's another example,

And it's one of my favourites.

Jim Carrey.

Before he became one of the biggest stars on the planet,

Jim wrote himself a check for ten million dollars and dated it a few years into the future.

He kept it in his wallet,

Not as a joke,

But as a reminder of where he was headed.

He didn't just write that number down and hope for the best.

He lived with that energy.

He spent years committed to his craft while holding on to the emotional state of,

I'm already successful.

And guess what?

By the date on the check,

He was paid exactly ten million dollars for a role.

Coincidence?

Maybe.

But I genuinely think it's so much bigger than that.

He had already embodied the feeling of success and the world aligned to match it.

But let me pause for a second because if you're listening to all of this and thinking,

Okay,

Great story,

But I'm not Jim Carrey,

I hear you.

It's easy to write stories like that off,

Like,

Oh,

That's for someone special,

Not me.

But here's the truth.

There's nothing uniquely different about their brains or bodies.

What they mastered is a process,

One that anyone can learn,

Including you.

It starts with understanding this.

You aren't your past.

You aren't your circumstances.

You're not even the thoughts that tell you otherwise.

You are who you choose to become.

So how do you start choosing differently?

Here's where it gets exciting.

This is about learning to tune into the emotions tied to the future you want.

Think of it like a radio station.

If you're tuned into the frequency of frustration or lack,

That's what you'll experience.

But when you tune into gratitude,

Joy or abundance,

You're aligning yourself with a whole different reality.

It's not about forcing yourself to ignore the challenges in life.

It's about shifting your focus and energy toward what you want to create.

Remember earlier when we talked about gratitude?

This is exactly why it's so powerful.

Gratitude is like a shortcut.

It's the fast lane to tuning into that frequency.

If you start every day,

Even just five to ten minutes a day,

Actively practicing gratitude for the life you're building,

You're training your brain to focus more on possibility and less on what's missing.

And over time,

That practice starts to compound.

Those emotions and thoughts become your new baseline.

They start to feel automatic,

Like second nature.

That's when things start shifting in your life.

But let's talk about what happens when resistance shows up.

Because,

You know,

Life gets messy.

And resistance,

It's sneaky.

It shows up as self-doubt,

Procrastination,

Or that voice that tries to pull us back into old habits.

Resistance loves to disguise itself as excuses,

Like I'm too busy,

Or this isn't working fast enough.

Here's where most people get stuck.

They feel resistance and stop.

Ugh,

This is too hard,

They think,

And they go back to old patterns.

But what if we reframed resistance as part of the process?

Like instead of fearing it or battling it,

We embraced it as proof that change is happening.

Think of resistance like muscles burning during a workout.

It's uncomfortable,

Sure,

But it's also where the growth happens.

When you push through those moments,

You're rewiring your brain for something new.

So the next time that voice creeps in saying,

You can't do this,

You can smile and say,

Oh hey,

Resistance,

I see you,

But I'm choosing differently.

And here's some great news.

You don't have to start huge,

You don't need to overhaul your life overnight.

Tiny shifts,

Practiced consistently,

Create massive change over time.

Let's get practical for a moment.

What's one area of your life that doesn't feel quite aligned?

Maybe it's your health,

Your career,

Your relationships.

Pick just one and ask yourself this.

What's the emotion tied to that area?

Is it stress,

Worry,

Frustration?

Whatever it is,

Identify it.

Now imagine what would it feel like if that area was exactly what you wanted it to be?

How would confidence,

Joy or peace show up for you?

Pause,

Close your eyes for a moment if you need to and really feel it.

That's the work.

And if you can do it for even one area of your life,

The ripple effect will surprise you.

To help keep you on track,

Let me share one more example.

Because storytelling makes this stuff come alive,

Right?

There's a woman named Sarah Blakely.

Sound familiar?

She's the billionaire founder of Spanx.

What's fascinating about Sarah isn't just her success,

It's how she got there.

When Sarah started out,

She had no funding and no connections and yet she created an empire.

Her secret?

She talks about celebrating failure.

Yep,

Failure.

Every time something didn't go her way,

Instead of spiraling into self-doubt,

She practiced gratitude and asked herself,

What did I learn from this?

That emotional resilience,

Her ability to stay tuned to gratitude,

Even in challenges,

Was a huge part of her becoming one of the most successful entrepreneurs in the world.

Now you might not be building a billion dollar empire,

But the principle is exactly the same.

When you stop letting struggle dictate your emotions and start showing up as the person you want to be before the outer results arrive,

The whole game changes.

Let's bring this full circle.

Everything we've talked about today,

Shifting your emotions,

Practicing gratitude,

Overcoming resistance,

It's all connected.

The key to this process isn't waiting for something external to change,

It's realising the transformation starts with you.

And that's what makes this so exciting.

You have the power to rewrite your story.

So here's my challenge for you.

Take just one step today.

Maybe it's writing down three things you're grateful for each morning.

Maybe it's spending five minutes visualising the life you're creating and really feeling it.

Or maybe it's catching yourself in a moment of resistance and choosing differently.

Whatever it is,

Start small,

Stay consistent and watch what happens.

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Thank you for being with me today.

I appreciate you and I hope to see you again soon.

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As usual, great content with "down to earth" methods.!