Healing From The Past

Join me in this meditation to help you break free from the hold of past traumas and anxieties. Gently release the pain and judgments tied to your memories, allowing for healing and reconciliation. By being in the present moment, you'll gain wisdom and clarity, empowering you to create a future that aligns with your deepest aspirations.

Transcript

Welcome everyone.

Grab a seat if you can.

Get comfortable.

Relax.

Should I just sit here all meditation?

Just relax,

Man.

Can you just relax?

Hi everyone.

All right.

Welcome.

Perhaps some of you sit and meditate with me on occasion.

Some of you it's your first time.

Cool.

So buckle up.

So your spirit doesn't float away from your body while you're meditating.

You could put on like a psychic seatbelt.

I will stay here.

And today we're going to be working on breaking the gravitational pull of the past so we can create a future by being present.

Something along those lines.

And if you've been meditating a while,

Then you're probably a little bit at least aware that all of your memories and your past experiences probably pull on you often.

They might make you overthink,

Feel anxious,

Experience the same pain over and over that maybe you experienced in the past or trauma.

And that probably keeps you from being present,

Being grounded,

Being happy,

And creating.

And this is a very normal part of the human condition.

We all go through it.

But before I get into the past and the pain and the heaviness and all of that,

Of course,

I have a couple of jokes for us.

So the first is,

Since we're talking about time today,

The future,

The present and the past walk into a bar.

Things got a little tense.

I like that one.

All right.

This one comes from one of my favorite comics,

Mitch Hedberg.

He said,

I'm sick of following my dreams,

Man.

I'm just going to ask where they're going and hook up with them later.

That's good.

I like that.

It's pretty good.

Let's see if you like this one.

Always borrow money from a pessimist.

They'll never expect it back.

Or maybe you're the pessimist giving away money.

All right.

Last one.

Dad joke.

What did the chicken say when it was happy with a situation?

Egg-cellent.

Oh,

So they're so bad,

They're good.

So I wanted to share,

Start with a bit of a story here.

I got a boo.

I was working,

This was a long time ago,

Over 10 years ago.

I was working with a student and she was probably in her maybe mid-sixties at the time.

And we were discussing relationships and I asked her how long she had been single for.

And she said 30 years.

I was like,

Oh,

Okay.

And was there something in your past that affected you that kept,

You think,

Kept you from being in a relationship?

And she said,

Yeah,

I had trauma in my past.

It was something along the lines of my father would consistently cheat on my mother and that traumatized me.

So I had a few relationships,

But none of them really went anywhere.

And I've just been single all these years.

It was very clear to her,

As we were discussing in that moment,

That her past was so much affecting her ability to create her future,

Something that she wanted.

And that was just the tip of the iceberg.

That was just our discovery as we were sitting and meditating and talking.

So first there's the realization of what is it in my past that is keeping me from being present,

Being able to have what I want and being able to see that clearly and create it.

All of us have areas in our life like this.

Some of us are great with our careers,

Hard time relationships.

Other of us are amazing relationships.

We have a hard time with our career or with creativity.

So there's always at least one or two areas of life where somebody struggles more than the others.

It's often because something has happened to us in our past that we can't get over,

Let go of,

Heal.

Maybe we don't fully understand,

Or we might not even remember.

And so it affects us.

It bubbles up from the unconscious at the worst moments and sabotages us,

Keeps us up at night,

Makes us neurotic and spin out,

Worry.

And so then life kind of becomes this battle between the past and the future.

And we're kind of like a ping pong ball,

Just bouncing from the past to worrying about a future.

And the present moment is just the net.

We just jump over,

We hop over,

We bounce over,

And kind of look at it for a moment and move on.

Anyone have that experience?

One of the ways that we break the spell of the past,

Obviously we have to heal,

But we heal by being present.

So if I was to ask you,

Write it down somewhere if you want,

What percentage of your attention and energy is in the past?

What percentage of it tends to be in the future?

And what percentage of it tends to be in the present?

So out of 100%,

And just generally speaking your life,

How much of your energy is in the past?

How much of your energy is in the future?

And how much is in the present?

So how much is in the past?

How much future?

And how much is in the present?

Out of a total 100%.

Just get a sense.

Our past is incredibly important.

Through our memories,

That is how we're able to have an identity and create our future.

As part of evolution,

Our survival,

We learn skills,

We need our memories,

It makes us who we are,

And it helps us make decisions and create a future.

If you had no memories,

You wouldn't be able to drive,

You wouldn't know anybody,

You'd have no identity,

It'd be nearly impossible to walk through the world.

And so if you know anyone who has dementia,

Alzheimer's,

You'll see this.

I've had people in my family with it,

And you'll just watch them,

They slowly can no longer function.

So of course we want to be in the moment,

But we need the past and the information of the past to guide us into the future.

And so there's nothing wrong with our memories.

Sometimes it just holds an energetic charge of pain,

And we over-identify with them,

Right?

So I am my past,

I am what's happened to me,

I am the trauma I've been through.

That identity is the crux of it,

That's where we get lost.

And then we create the future from the past,

Without being present.

So this is where meditation comes in.

This is how we can break the spell of the past,

Use it wisely,

And then create the future from this moment,

Okay?

So energetically we do this.

It's not a thought,

It's not just an idea,

A concept,

It's an energy.

There's this quote I love,

Meditation is not what you think.

So as you deepen as a meditator,

You learn to anchor more and more of your energy and attention into the present moment.

And there's no right number,

But let's just imagine that 80% of you,

Your energy is in the present,

You got 10% in the past,

10% in the future.

Even as I say that,

Does that feel better to you?

Just being,

Just more of your energy in the present,

And then you're able to dip into the past,

You're able to envision the future,

But the anchor of who you are,

Your center of gravity is in the present.

And just imagine,

Our center of gravity is somewhere in our bellies or lower abdomen,

Right?

Imagine if the center of your gravity was in your head,

You just kept falling over as you're walking.

That's what happens to people who are lost in the future.

Or maybe your center of gravity is in your left leg,

And then you just keep falling back into the past.

So we need to have our center of gravity in the moment,

And that's how we navigate through life.

And I've never met a human being that said to me,

David,

My life has gone exactly as I expected.

Anyone ever meet someone like that?

Not real,

No way,

They are lying.

I like to joke,

My parents are from the former Soviet Union,

My first language was Russian,

And you know,

A little bleak sometimes back then,

And it'd be like,

You think your life will go as you expect?

I will,

I did not think so.

That's my,

That's the best Russian I have,

Accent I have.

I love this quote from Pema Chodron,

She says,

Our neurosis and our wisdom are made of the same material.

I'll say that again.

Our neurosis and our wisdom are made of the same material.

That's beautiful.

And so if there is a memory in your past that you're stuck on,

Now that could feel like a curse,

A crutch,

A weight,

It could hold you back,

It could keep you spinning,

It could make you not trust people,

Or want to avoid life,

Or can keep you from creating.

So that neurosis can do its thing,

And if you let it,

It will for the rest of your life.

I guarantee you.

Or,

There's an or,

If you decide to anchor yourself into the moment and heal yourself from the past,

Heal your past,

Then that neurosis,

That pain,

Whatever it is,

Becomes your ally,

It becomes your friend.

And we all know people in life who you can tell they've had experience,

And they've learned from it,

And they've become wise.

And there are people who have had experience and have not learned from it,

And keep making the same mistakes over and over,

Keep manifesting the same relationships,

Or career opportunities,

Or whatever it is,

Over and over,

And they don't seem to be making progress.

So wisdom is when we learn from experience,

But we don't shame our experience.

It's really easy to shame what we've done,

Or what we've experienced in the past,

And then it hides in our unconscious,

And then it really forms who we are,

And what we do or don't do.

Ah,

On that note,

I love this quote from Elizabeth Gilbert,

The writer you pray love,

She said,

The worst thing that's ever happened to you has already happened.

Now,

Is that always true?

No.

Is it likely impossible?

Yes.

So let's just entertain the possibility that the worst thing that's ever going to happen to you has already happened,

Right?

And now here you are,

And you get to decide what you want to do with the rest of this canvas of life.

So in meditation today,

We're going to work on bringing up something from the past that's been pulling us,

Do some healing work on it,

See if we can lessen the weight,

And the charge,

And the pull,

And then from the present start to create our future,

Okay?

Ah,

The past,

You know,

You've seen this in movies,

Maybe you've had the experience,

You know,

Two people that go to the bar,

Or maybe it's just one person goes to the bar,

He's like,

Bartender,

Give me a drink.

You know,

Three,

Four,

Five,

10 shots in,

Drinks in,

It's the truth serum.

Start telling the bartender everything that's happened in their life,

All the pain starts to come out.

It's like the bartender,

It becomes the therapist,

Right?

And when they loosen up from alcohol,

All of a sudden,

All of the past pain starts to come out.

Listen to what happened,

My ex did to me,

I lost my career,

You know,

We've all seen that play out in films,

Maybe we've had that experience ourselves.

So we don't need to get intoxicated to let the pain of the past up and out.

We could also just be present and meditate.

And please don't force anything from the past up and out.

We're not here to re-traumatize ourselves by pulling up the worst memory that we have.

So that is not the goal here,

Okay?

When we meditate,

There's an intelligence in our unconscious.

There's a deep intelligence in our being.

So when you close your eyes and you sit still,

And you just set an intention,

All right,

I'm going to allow one thing to arise from the past that's been pulling me over and over.

You just allow it to arise.

You don't have to force it.

You don't have to intellectually go back and go,

I want to get that one,

Because that doesn't work.

So your system is going to give you what you're ready for,

Not what you expect.

And it's often not what you expect,

Okay?

And one of the ways I like to envision it is almost like there's an air bubble and water,

And it just kind of rises to the surface.

It's pretty effortless.

So you can imagine it that way.

And for some of you,

It's going to be a very clear memory.

It's going to play out really clearly.

And for others,

It's just like,

You don't know what it is.

It's a vague feeling,

And you might just sense the energy.

So it might just be like uncomfortability,

Resistance,

Annoyance,

Frustration,

Sadness,

Anger,

Resentment.

So you might not know what the memory is,

But you might just start with the feeling,

And as you uncover the feeling,

Then maybe the memory or a number of memories begin to arise,

Okay?

And this is a sensitive place.

So what happens to most of us when a memory arises,

It gets onto the screen of our mind's eye,

And then we watch the movie,

And we lose ourselves.

You know,

Like when you go to the movies,

You watch the film,

Two hours goes by,

You forget yourself.

You're lost in the emotion and the story of the film.

It's very easy to be seduced by a memory and forget where you are.

Next morning,

You wake up in Vegas married to a memory.

What?

Did I do that?

Oh,

My God.

This all happens to us as meditators.

We get seduced by memory,

We lose ourselves,

And we go unconscious.

And then at a certain point in the meditation,

Maybe we wake up again out of the film.

That might happen to you again and again as you're meditating.

And one of the keys is to remember that the memory is inside the atmosphere of your awareness,

Just like a cloud is inside the atmosphere of the earth,

Right?

There's blue skies,

And around the cloud are the blue skies.

In the same way,

The memory exists inside your awareness,

But it's very easy to be hypnotized and seduced by the memory,

And then you go off into the story.

We do that in meditation.

We also do that in life.

You ever have one of those friends that they go into a past story,

And they have no awareness of you,

Of your feelings,

Of the moment,

Of how much time has passed,

And they just ramble and go and go,

And this person did this to me,

And that person did that to me.

And you're just like,

Oh,

Why am I so empathic,

Empathetic?

So I'm too nice.

We've all been on both sides of that equation.

So when you lose yourself in meditation,

That is not a problem.

Just bring yourself back and realize that the memory is just a cloud in the atmosphere of your awareness,

And that's how we meditate,

Okay?

And we'll just do one at a time.

Maybe just one memory,

Maybe a couple.

Just see what's pulling us from the past.

And then the last thing I want to say about this is it's no accident what comes up in meditation,

What wants attention,

And what needs reconciliation.

It's not an accident.

This is your next step in life,

In your personal growth,

And on your path.

So give it a sense of respect and reverence and compassion.

Compassion,

Okay?

Usually what we give it is invalidations,

Criticism,

And lack of self-worth.

Like,

Ah,

You're still stuck on this.

It's been years.

How are you not over it?

Oh my god,

Everyone else would be over this.

You're just a stuck person.

You've been stuck forever,

Right?

We go into that narration and self-criticism.

That is extremely common,

And it is just,

Let's call it like a film on top of the memory of pain and resistance.

The self-judgment is a reaction to pain,

Right?

So let that judgment,

When it comes up,

Almost like a film,

Just pull it off,

Just like a layer of goo.

Let it come off and let it pass,

All right?

That is very,

Very common,

That that layer of self-criticism arises on the memory,

And we don't see the memory clearly.

But there's a deeper hidden meaning in each of these memories.

And as Pema Chodron always says,

Nothing goes away until it teaches us what we need to know.

And so the memory won't reconcile itself and then get filed back into the filing cabinet until you heal it,

Okay?

And to heal it,

We have to face it with compassion and awareness and just be.

The key to meditation is to try and do nothing,

And then to let go of trying to do nothing.

In life,

We're always thinking that to accomplish something,

I have to do something.

To accomplish something,

I have to do something.

That makes total sense in the material world,

But in the subjective internal world,

It's counterintuitive.

You actually want to do your best to do nothing and be still and just watch with compassion.

If you can truly do that and not get seduced into fixing everything or solving everything,

That's when a shift is going to happen.

Okay?

Most likely.

So have patience,

Stillness,

And compassion.

Let the memory arise,

And then let's see what happens,

Okay?

All right.

That was my long spiel.

Did we have a joke winner?

Some of you came in after some of my jokes,

But I think I like the one that's most relevant for today is the future,

The present,

And the past.

Walk into a bar,

Things got a little tense.

I like that.

Okay.

On that note,

When you're ready,

Let's meditate.

So go ahead and close your eyes.

Thank you for being here with me,

Morning,

Afternoon,

Evening,

Wherever you are,

Whenever you are,

And wherever and whenever you are,

It's now.

So we're all here now.

So welcome.

It's good to be here with you,

And it's nice to be meditating with you.

So as you close your eyes,

Why don't you maybe just wiggle in your seat for a moment,

Just kind of loosen up.

Imagine if you were like a noodle.

Someone was shaking you from the top.

How was your meditation with David?

I'm a loose noodle.

I'm a piece of spaghetti.

I've been taking my past really seriously,

But now I'm just loosening it up.

And then settle in.

Maybe just pull your shoulders down a bit more away from your ears.

You can soften the palms of your hands.

Maybe even soften your jaw.

You might notice when a memory does come up that has some intensity around it.

Where do you tighten up in your body?

See if you can breathe into that place and just start to relax it.

So maybe you start to breathe into your belly a bit more,

More deeply and more slowly.

So you can slow your breathing down by about 20%.

And if you're one of those people that's always trying to or likes to control everything,

I want you to laugh.

Just give me a giggle out loud even though I can't hear you.

Just like,

Yeah,

That's worked out.

A little amusement around that.

Because you cannot control meditation.

I mean,

You can try.

You won't get anywhere.

I had a student once tell me,

My morning meditation is I count to 500.

And she looked like a ball of yarn just tied real tight.

So start to loosen up here.

You've probably been wound up too tight your whole life.

And give yourself the chance to loosen up as you just notice there's a natural calm stillness inside you.

Beyond all the noise,

All the feelings,

All the memories.

Beyond all of the stories,

The people who hurt you.

Beyond all of that,

There is still a calm a calm stillness.

It is untouchable by the world.

As you start to notice that place and settle into it,

I want you to start to draw your awareness into your mind's eye.

And the mind's eye is not a physical place.

It's a place subjectively in the dimension of our inner being.

But you can kind of consider it behind your eyes in the center of your head.

Let's step into that dimension.

And in the center of your head,

I want you to just imagine like a small pond,

A small lake of water.

Above the water is your conscious mind,

You right now.

And below in the water is your subconscious where you store all your memories.

There's many,

Many thousands,

More than thousands of memories down there.

Some of them are useful.

Some of them are nostalgic.

Some of them give you your identity.

Some of them are funny and some are painful.

And some of them have a strong weight,

Gravitational weight,

That pull you back into the past over and over.

So I want you to allow one of those memories that pull you back into the past over and over.

One moment in time,

Just one moment in time.

Imagine it coming up like an air bubble.

Or maybe you see it a bit differently,

Like in that film Inside Out,

Different colored spheres.

Just very gently with your intention,

Allow one memory that tends to pull you back into the past.

It's got a lot of charge on it.

Just to rise up through the water and just hover in front of you.

You might not even know what it is quite yet.

Allow it to come up.

And take a moment,

Just inspect it,

Notice it.

There's a color,

A shape,

A density.

And there's probably some amount of pain on it.

And just to help us visualize this,

I'd like you to imagine the pain like water inside the bubble.

And so is it a third full of pain?

Half?

Two thirds?

Maybe there's a color to it.

Could be a darker,

Murkier color.

Just gauge in this memory,

How much pain is still there that's unreconciled,

That I haven't felt or moved through.

Kind of just looking at that water level,

That liquid level.

And as you begin to notice that,

See if you get lost in the memory or the story.

We haven't even gotten there yet.

Just bring yourself back to awareness and presence.

Nice,

Calm center.

Once you get a sense of,

All right,

Is it this memory is filled with about a third of pain or a half or two thirds,

Or it is boiling over,

Whatever it is,

Just notice that and acknowledge it.

You might also notice your past reactions to this.

You spin,

Overthink,

Avoid,

Get angry,

Get sad,

Blame.

Some of those energies maybe can start melting off the outside of the memory,

Kind of like a filmy energy that had been sitting on the memory.

This is what makes this memory not neutral.

It's like a charged particle.

And if a visualization helps,

Maybe take like a rag or a vacuum and suck off that outer layer of judgment or of whatever it is,

Or wipe it off.

And you do that with compassion.

Notice how much judgment towards yourself perhaps there is around this memory for not having reconciled it or not having done better in the moment.

And just watch what happens as you just take off that outer layer of judgment,

Of resistance.

That's not original to the memory.

That's,

You overlaid that on the memory when you tried to reconcile it.

So right now we're just wiping off what's not original to the memory.

And as we do that,

Maybe this soap bubble or ball becomes more translucent,

More visible.

Notice what that feels like to let go of that judgment.

Maybe it gets a bit lighter.

And you can allow that to continue to come off.

Then we're going to go to the next step here.

I want you to get a sense of how much of the pain inside of this bubble is not actually yours.

So maybe some of the pain in this memory,

Possibly,

Not saying for sure,

Belongs to another person or a number of other people.

Some of it belongs to you.

Maybe some of it doesn't belong to you.

So what percentage of the pain inside of this memory,

Inside of this bubble,

Doesn't belong to you?

Maybe you start to see it in a different color than the pain that does belong to you.

And what you could do is pop a little hole in the bottom side of the bubble,

And just with your intention,

Allow just the pain that does not belong to you.

Let it drain out.

And when it's done,

The bubble will close back up.

Just like when a cell wall kind of repairs itself.

But you're just shedding the pain that you absorbed that doesn't belong to you in that memory.

It's not your responsibility to heal somebody else's pain.

So let's let that come out.

Let's let that come off.

And if you get lost or it's too serious or too heavy,

It's okay.

Or maybe just make a sound just like,

Yuck.

Let some of that pain drain.

If you hold on to everyone else's pain inside of all your memories,

You'll always feel heavy.

Your pain will help you grow.

Holding on to other people's pain can get you much more stuck.

So let the pain that does not belong to you in this bubble drain out.

Notice you can breathe deeper.

There's more room.

Of course,

You might also feel some of it come out of your body.

If you're sensitive,

You might notice it come out of your head or your throat,

Your chest,

Your stomach,

Your shoulders.

As it drains from the bubble,

You might feel it come out of your body and just get absorbed by the ground and the air.

And you might feel it come out of your chest,

Your stomach,

Your shoulders.

And you might feel it come out of your head,

Your throat,

Your chest,

Your stomach,

Your shoulders.

By the earth below you.

And as that goes,

You are left with your own pain on this memory.

And your own pain,

As hurtful as it is,

Can actually feel good because it's yours to reconcile and to learn from and to integrate.

And this is how we grow and become wise.

Pain plus reflection equals growth.

So now that we're releasing that antagonistic judgment on the memory,

Now that we're releasing other people's pain off of it,

What we're left with is the memory and our pain of the experience.

It's much more manageable.

I want you to take a moment and just notice the quality of your pain.

Is it disappointment?

Is it sadness?

Is it anger?

Is it fear?

Is it confusion?

It might be more than one thing,

But just for right now,

Just let one arise.

What is some of that pain made of?

And then I'd like you to allow it fully to be there.

Give it 100% license to be present with you.

Don't push it away.

Don't solve it.

Just let it be right there with you.

Can you give it breathing room?

Just let it be.

Earlier I said the secret to meditation is to be able to do nothing.

Just let it be.

Be present with it.

And feel it.

If it needs to course through your entire body,

Allow it to.

Perhaps it's still there because you didn't allow yourself to feel it fully in the past.

If you did,

It might have reconciled and moved on.

And I'll take us back to that quote,

Our neurosis and our wisdom are made of the same thing.

Our pain and our wisdom are made of the same thing.

Embrace it.

Let the judgment around it go and just let yourself have it.

We're going to go a little bit deeper here as you do that.

There's likely a sense in which this pain has formed a layer of your identity.

I'm the person that gets rejected.

I never get what I want.

I'm not good enough.

Who do I think I am?

Whatever layer of identity is created on you,

Just notice that.

And start to peel that off.

It might peel off kind of around the energy field of your physical body.

It's not true,

But it's been formed.

And it's probably creating your future.

At least partially impacting it.

And how you feel in the moment.

So as you stop resisting this pain and embrace it and feel it,

The identity that it created for you starts to melt off,

Peel off.

Just because something happened in the past,

That doesn't mean that is who you are.

That's just a kind of confusion.

And this is where the deeper pain starts to come up and out.

So if it is,

Allow it.

This is also where transformation can happen.

So as you embrace this pain at a certain point inside the memory bubble,

It might transform maybe into soil that grows flowers.

So we're not getting rid of it.

We're keeping it.

We're transforming it.

Our neurosis and our wisdom are made of the same thing.

If you need to let a wave of grief pass through you,

Of sadness,

Whatever it is,

Anger,

Allow it.

Give it full license.

So as you do that,

You may start to notice how simple the truth is.

Oh,

Someone hurt my feelings.

I lost someone I love.

It left an impact.

And now I'm healing.

So watch that pain inside the bubble transform as you do that.

It almost creates kind of an ecosystem for the memory.

Now the memory,

Instead of just being stuck with pain,

Now is surrounded by wisdom.

So as you start to look at the memory itself,

Memory itself is not that important.

But as you can see it,

Just one moment in time,

Notice the wisdom that's the jungle wisdom,

The forest wisdom,

The garden wisdom that's growing around it.

Oh,

Just because somebody rejects me doesn't mean I'm not worthy.

Oh,

When we lose something,

Even though it's difficult,

We have gratitude for the time we had for the person we love.

Oh,

And someone hurts us.

It's because their hurt has nothing to do with my value.

Just notice the wisdom that starts to arise from the pain around the memory.

Get a sense of it.

And you can start to embrace this memory.

Maybe you even kind of put your arms around it and give it a hug.

Appreciation.

As hard as this was,

I'm going to keep you.

I'm going to keep deriving wisdom and healing.

And maybe I'll even help others from this experience.

And any shame,

Any guilt,

Any judgment,

It can just pour off.

It can melt off.

That's just a story that's coming off.

Really great work.

And then when you're ready,

Take this nice,

Shiny,

Healed memory that is full of wisdom and insight.

And I want you to put it back in the water,

In your mind's eye,

And let it sink back into your unconscious.

Let it be filed into your memory bank.

You can pull it up anytime you want.

It is your memory.

You have a different relationship with it now.

And anytime you need to reflect on it and derive more wisdom,

You can pull it right back up without kind of the jarring intensity of the pain.

Notice yourself in the moment right now.

And that you get to create future memories in a different energy.

And as a grounded,

Healed,

Conscious individual,

You can really start to create a future that serves you and everyone around you.

And your future is not defined by the pain of the past.

Just notice that shift in energy.

And if you need to sit down and do this 100 or 1,

000 more times,

Well,

Then that's your path.

But what will you look like if you do?

How will you feel?

Who will you be?

And what will you attract?

Take a nice,

Big,

Deep breath in.

Whoa,

Really big sigh out.

Holy moly.

Just a light meditation.

When you're ready,

You can slowly open your eyes and stretch.

Thank you for all the thank yous.

Thank you for sitting with me.

This is big.

And we don't heal our entire lives in one meditation.

But I hope that you can use this tool.

Go back and do it again.

And if something is too traumatizing or too much,

Somebody asked this question,

You can always go back and do it again.

And if you're not comfortable with it,

And if something is too traumatizing or too much,

Somebody asked this question,

Then you want to sit with a therapist or somebody that's capable of walking you through a memory that's too painful for you to sit with alone.

In my life experience with my students and myself,

99% of the time,

We can handle the memories ourselves.

There's less than 1% usually of our memories that,

And I'm just making that number up,

But generally speaking,

That are so traumatizing,

We need someone else to walk us through them and in good time.

And so I cannot,

I from here,

Who doesn't know you,

Cannot tell you which memories those are.

So you're going to have to know as an adult,

This one I need help with,

Okay?

And then get the help that you need.

A lot of memories and releasing tears.

Thank you.

Thank you,

Everyone.

Have a wonderful rest of your day.

Love you.

And I will see you soon.

Bye from Colorado.

Bye,

Everyone.

Reviews

This popped up just at the right time! Someone contacted me from 40yrs ago an unrequited love. It’s sent my world spinning. I cannot heal someone else’s pain and need to heal my own buried pain. This meditation has helped move me forward to understanding and healing. Thank you 🙏❤️‍🩹

I fell asleep on your meditation twice early on, but the third try worked! This process definitely takes a gentle approach. Thank you for helping me dust off my memory bubble and for walking me through this cleanse. While there, I saw glimpses of other dirty bubbles so I’ll be back. I feel lighter, more loving toward myself and others

David, what a gem you are. I will come back to this as needed. Love you

An amazing instructor. I’m always filled with a sense of peace when I listen to one of David Gandalman’s recordings and particate in one of his meditations.

Thank you! That was freeing and I appreciate the new strategy of releasing the other’s emotions. I hadn’t realized I was holding onto them as well. 🤯

I actually listened to this to help and understand how you can get rid/release of trauma . Very interesting Thsnkyou 🙏

Loved it. Really cleared and transformed memories..that left fertilecsoil for growth..😁🙏💕

Helped me begin to see a hard memory in a new way and gave me tools to feel like I’m making new healing progress with it for the first time. Thank you.

Really wonderful to come across this amazing meditation at this time xx Thank you

You are my absolute favorite! I love a laughter, ease, and calmness you come with! Thank you!

One of the best I’ve done on here. Perfect for the new year. Alot of great quotables. Very surpised how a work memory from corporate created an ideal about myself which shows up in entrepreneurship.

An excellent and somewhat intense and freeing practice to reframe pain and suffering. Thank you.

You really are a brilliant facilitator David, I like your work 🙏

Thank you David, this was the most powerful meditation I ever did. Thank you for conducting me 🙏

This is one to repeat to sort the past and I needed to separate my pain from others: feeling responsible for others is why I do get stressed and stuck. Grateful for your meditations as they comfort and help me grow beyond those limits I have allowed to become a part of me. I enjoy every thing you do!

My second time playing this. It's really helping me deal with my only son cutting me and my baby granddaughter from his life. As you say it's 'big' and I'll need to do this many more times but I feel the layers trending away and the wisdom replacing them. Thank you for your kindness which resonates through your voice

Thank you, I was able to clear more from that memory and it was really helpful and healing.

Thank you for this! So healing.

Thank you! So helpful and eye- and heartopening ❤️

Muchas gracias por esta meditación guiada. He atravesado muchos quiebres en mi vida y estoy en uno de ellos con la batalla de trastornos de ansiedad y depresión muy profunda. Definiendo mi camino y lo que precisa nacer de mi, reconociendo mi autenticidad. Me ayudaste a estar en un estado muy tranquilo. 😌 en medio de mi camino de sananción y a reirme tambien.