The Addiction To Being Loved: Anxious Attachment
by Abi Beri
A meditation on anxious attachment as literal addiction—with full honesty about the shadow behaviors, obsession, and desperation. If you check your phone obsessively, need constant reassurance that's never enough, feel panic when someone pulls back, or have done things you're ashamed of to keep someone close—this meditation offers real understanding. What You'll Explore: • Anxious attachment as brain addiction (dopamine, withdrawal, tolerance cycles) • The shadow side: manipulative behaviors, testing, using sex/closeness strategically • The obsession: why you can't stop thinking about them • Why unavailable people feel like "chemistry" (intermittent reinforcement) • The rage and resentment underneath the neediness • Where this started: childhood inconsistency and conditional love • Family constellation view: inherited anxious attachment patterns • Somatic practice for the part addicted to being chosen
