09:00pm Friday, 27 Feb
Understand Desire - An Emotional Education
With Saskia Lightstar
An Emotional Education. Every week, I’m going to give you one emotion, and I’m going to teach you a whole new way to feel it.
Because most of us were never taught emotional intelligence. We were taught maths and history and science and geography. But nobody taught us how to feel our emotions. Nobody taught us what our emotions are for, how they move through the body, or how to experience them without being overwhelmed, controlled by them, or running from them our entire lives.
Emotions shape everything. They shape our relationships, our health, our confidence, our choices, and the way we experience ourselves. And yet most of us are trying to navigate life feeling emotions we were never given instructions for.
This is the emotional education we should have all been given. This is real emotional fluency.
Each week, I take one emotion and change your mind about it. I tell you the truth about it. Why it exists. What it is trying to communicate. How it actually works inside your nervous system. And how to experience it in a way that allows it to move, teach, and transform you, instead of overwhelm or control you.
This week, we’re talking about desire.
Desire is one of the most misunderstood emotions there is. It gets tangled up with shame. With neediness. With lust. With greed. With “too muchness.” Many of us learned very early on that wanting something made us selfish. Dramatic. Unrealistic. Embarrassing.
So we shrink it. We suppress it. We pretend we don’t care. We convince ourselves we’re fine. We lower the bar. We say “it’s not that important.” We act detached when inside we are quietly aching.
But desire is not weakness. It is guidance.
Desire is your life force pointing. It is the part of you that knows what feels alive. What feels nourishing. What feels aligned. It is the pulse of expansion inside your body.
When you disconnect from desire, you disconnect from direction.
In this session, you’ll learn what desire actually is, how it moves through your nervous system, and why it can feel so vulnerable to admit what you really want. You’ll learn how to feel desire without collapsing into fantasy or gripping in desperation. And how to allow it to exist in your body without shame.
This is where desire stops being something you hide.
And becomes something that guides you back home to yourself.
This week you’ll be learning how to feel desire in a way that doesn’t betray you anymore.