From an early age, we are conditioned to adapt — to fit in, to behave, to become what is expected of us. Without even noticing, we assume roles that help us survive, and we conform to structures that reward endurance and performance over truth and feeling. In this gentle talk, Joy explores how easily we slip into these rigid patterns, mistaking compliance for strength and endurance for identity. With kindness and honesty, she invites us to reflect on what has been lost in the process, and how we might begin to soften the structures we’ve lived inside — making space once again for authenticity, presence, and inner freedom.