Begin by relaxing into your body.
Notice the gentle flow of your breath as it goes in and out.
Now in the spirit of gentleness and compassion,
Bring to mind the heartache you've been feeling and allow whatever emotions you have to come to the surface and be here.
You might notice yourself going directly into a feeling of blame for the person who hurt you.
If that happens,
Just notice it and then get curious what's underneath the blame.
What is the feeling here for you?
Is it sadness?
Loneliness?
A deep disappointment?
Frustration?
Maybe some residual anger?
See if you can name that emotion for yourself,
The primary emotion that you are feeling.
And now sense into your body.
Where are you feeling that emotion in your body?
This is a place where you are probably feeling the most sensation now.
Whether that is tightness or tension.
Or perhaps a temperature,
Heat or coolness.
Maybe a more rapid heart rate.
Once you have identified those physical sensations in your body,
Direct your focus there and begin breathing into that area.
This is where the emotional energy from your heartache lives in your body and we are going to give it some compassionate attention.
Just allow those physical sensations to be there as you breathe into them without wishing them away.
You are simply getting in touch with that emotional energy in your body and how it feels at the physical level.
And now get curious,
If that energy had a colour,
What would it be?
How about a shape?
Or a texture?
How big is that energy in your body?
There is no right or wrong here.
Just notice if any visuals or colours,
Shapes,
Textures come to mind as you breathe into that part of your body.
Now this emotional energy might feel familiar to you.
Maybe you felt it before in your life.
Or maybe not.
Staying connected to that emotion and how it feels in your body,
Ask yourself what that emotion might be needing from you right now.
What is the healing antidote to that pain?
That need within you might be unmet.
Is it a need to be seen,
Listened to,
Or understood?
A need to feel safe,
To feel loved,
To feel valued and accepted.
Listen in to what your inner self is most needing now.
And you may also sense in yourself the desire to have those needs met by someone else.
And that's okay for that desire to be there.
Right now,
The healing work is to offer it to yourself.
That warmth.
That understanding.
That loving acceptance.
Whatever the need might be.
You can even imagine wrapping your arms around that emotional energy,
That place in your body that is hurting.
Telling yourself,
I hear you.
I'm with you.
And keep breathing into that part of your body with all of your compassion and love.
Noticing how it feels to be there for yourself.
And trusting that you are so worthy of having those needs met by yourself and by someone who loves you.
Now go back to those physical sensations you were feeling in your body.
And just notice what's going on there now.
How is that tension,
Or that tightness,
That temperature,
Whatever you had been feeling before.
If it's still there,
That's okay.
The important thing is that you took the time to get in relationship with that emotional energy and you gave it some healing attention.
You gave it some space.
Breathing is a process and it's safe to trust the process.
The next step in this meditation is to see if you are ready to offer forgiveness to your ex-partner.
The one who brought on this heartache.
See if that feels possible for you right now.
And if it doesn't,
That's okay.
Ask yourself how does it feel to set the intention that one day when you're ready you might offer them forgiveness.
Even if you can't,
Do it now.
And see if you might be ready now to release that ex-lover from your energy field.
Maybe bringing their image to mind and repeating the mantra,
You were a part of my journey but not my destination.
I release you with love.
You were a part of my journey but not my destination.
I release you with love.
And notice if you can have a felt sense of chords releasing in your body as you repeat the mantra one more time.
You were a part of my journey but not my destination.
I release you with love.
Now taking one more deep breath in.
And on the exhale just letting everything go.
Begin to move your body around.
And when you're ready,
You can open your eyes and come back to this moment.
